My mother always told me that if a man wants you, he'd do anything to keep you.
He'd get on his hands and knees and serve you like you were his queen. You knew you would have a man that loved you for you, if his words rang true because of course actions speak louder than words.
That was the definition of a real man, according to my mother. She told me to find a man that was like no other. Of course, me being me I chuckled and said "Sure mom, I will" but I didn't really see or know, that I would grow up in the world that I live in today, and a man could only love me if I woke up in his bed naked the next day.
I came to college thinking that guys were on a path now to being more mature, I thought I would come to college meeting guys that were better than the ones I had crushes on or dated in high school. I always thought that the guy you would date in college would become your husband, in the beginning of school I was highly convinced that my future husband could be in a class with me to be honest. Oh how I was so wrong.
Freshman college guys up until junior year think that commitment is a crime. Most of the guys I talked to and started flirting with would either lie to me and say they wanted something “genuine” so they could get in my pants, or flat out tell me “before anything starts, I just wanted to say I don’t want to be in a relationship. It’s not you, it’s just me.” It made me feel absolutely horrible!
It was disgusting to figure out that if a guy asked me to sleep with him and I said no, I was no longer good enough, or if I didn’t send him pictures, he didn’t want anything to do with me.
I witnessed someone at a party with eight slashes on his arm, which basically represented the body count that he now had, body count meaning the number of girls that he slept with in his time at college. And he seemed proud of it! He was showing it off to everyone, and it made me sick. I highly don’t understand the college guy mentality. Is there satisfaction of sleeping with multiple girls. Is it funny? Does it help you fit in with your guy friends? Does it make you feel better about yourself? Does it feel good to break a girl’s heart? What happened to thinking if a girl is cute that you should want to get to know her and take her out on a date?
The culture in college now is texting or snap chatting each other until one of you, either the guy or girl, will say, “hey come to my room so we can hang,” which of course is supposed to mean “hey come to my room so we can hook up and then I’ll never talk to you again and totally pretend you’re absolutely nothing to me.”
It destroys a girl’s self esteem when all of a sudden you’re telling her she’s beautiful and then the next day you walk by her in the halls and you don’t even look at her. It just shows how technology is destroying people as well. After everything you said to her over text message you don’t even have the decency to say hi to her in person? I've talked to guys who were no longer interested in me and blocked me the next day on social media, it made me stop and think is there really something wrong with me?
I don’t see what’s wrong in bringing a girl on an actual date, like is it uncool now or something? What’s wrong with a relationship? It just makes no sense to me. I know it means being tied down to one girl but what’s wrong with that especially if you like the girl?! It's messed up that most college guys would rather sleep with a girl then get to know her, what is wrong with our culture today?
