When you go to college, you see all these excited girls talking about how great it is to be in Greek life because you find those friends that will never leave your side no matter what. Unfortunately, not everyone can fit in this category. Truth be told, not everyone loves Greek life and you don't always find your home away from home.

I was Greek for about a semester until I decided to terminate. I was the shy girl who didn't really fit in but wanted to try out Greek life anyway because why not right? From the early stages of me being Greek, I was told that my bid was just a way to get their numbers higher and I was simply a "filler girl." I didn't find the right people until I had already checked out of the Greek system. My termination was more of a mental health move than anything else. I would rather eliminate the extra stress and keep those loyal to me around for the long run. I was happier not being Greek than I was Greek and that is the worst part about the whole thing.

Now I am not saying Greek is bad in general. If you want to be Greek, then go for it. All I am saying is is that not everyone has the best time in it. Some people are like me and would rather not be involved and then there're some people who have terrible experiences.

One of my friends here at VCU just recently terminated from her sorority after a year of constant hazing and harassment that has caused her incredible amounts of pain physically and mentally. You would never assume this from the outside, but being inside, these sororities are totally different than what you may think it is. THIS is her story.

Recruitment is completely fake in regards to none of those girls probably like you at all, they probably only think you're pretty (at least think you look good online). I have heard old sisters of mine talk about other girls saying that they wish that they had never voted a girl in because she was so much prettier online and completely disgusting in person... Literally calling her a catfish. Aren't sisters supposed to bring you up? Saying one of your sisters is ugly is definitely not the way to boost her feelings about herself so maybe you guys have the wrong idea about sisterhood?

ALSO! If you turn your back on anyone or express your own opinions and someone else doesn't like them, sorry you have no friends now. You're shunned. I was the one girl that always had her own opinions and that ended up with me being excluded from every single event that the sorority had ever thrown, from socials and mixers to actual parties.

When I tried to get out of the hell that they called home, I was told I wasn't allowed to unless I tried to apologize to the older sisters and just say that I was wrong and pretty much do anything in my power to make them happy. That is not how someone should live.

For a year, I lived in constant fear of going on social media or saying the wrong thing to anyone because everything I would say would be twisted in order to just kick me out of the chapter. This would've been great because all I wanted to do was leave at this point, but it turned into a sick game. A sick game of getting in trouble and threatened and then nothing. Rinse, repeat, whatever they say.

I became a, for lack of a better word, hermit. I stopped using social media, stopped leaving my apartment, stopped using my phone unless it was my mom asking if I was ok, because who knew what these girls would do if I tweeted something as simple as "I'm tired".

This is something you won't see plastered all over social media or anything because speaking out is something that girls fear of doing because now, it's 115 of them versus me, the girl who left. Why would I want to speak out publicly and have that fear that these girls are going to come after me at any moment? But here I am. Speaking out. Because I am tired of people getting hurt by these power obsessed people who have to have control over other girls, because that's all sororities are. It's a constant struggle for power.

Also, even if you come out to your school and tell them that you've had these horrible things happen to you on their campus, they are so unlikely to even do anything about it because then, they look bad for allowing this behavior. But isn't that the point? Us people who are hurt by these chapters in Greek life are coming to you for help but you're too embarrassed to do anything about it because YOU don't want to look bad.

How do you think I look now, though? To be continued....