You Are Not Alone

You Are Not Alone

Why everyone needs a support system
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You may be independent.

You may like to do things alone.

And you may prefer living life that way.

But everyone, no matter who you are, needs a support system. Whether it be one person or five, it is so important to know that you are not alone in this big, big world. No matter how you choose to utilize these people, whether it be pouring your heart out, crying, watching a movie in silence, or going for a car ride, you need to do it.

You don't have to bottle things up inside, keeping everything to yourself. That's unhealthy. For your body, for your emotions, for your mind -- it can do things to you. It can tear you down. When having someone, anyone, it can help build you back up when you need it the most.

It's funny how much better you can feel, once you have told someone about the cause of your stress. A certain kind of weight is lifted off your shoulders, and you know that someone is there for you, for whatever you may need.

It is not a display of weakness, to ask for help. It won't make you any less of a person. In fact, it will make you a stronger one. It is okay to need help, to reach out to others. It's okay to cry, to scream, to let all of your feelings out. It's the only way you will ever feel a little less stress and a little more peace.

You may be independent.

You may like to do things alone.

And you may prefer living life that way.

But there are 7.442 billion people in the world, so please, don't try to go through this life alone.

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25 Motivational Quotes To Get You Through Tough Classes

Showing up is half the battle.
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We all come across those classes that we just think we cannot pass. Every day is a struggle and each assignment, quiz, or exam makes you feel even worse about the class. Here are some of the quotes I have found that help me stay motivated.

1. A little progress each day adds up to big results.

2. Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be.

3. At any given moment, you have the power to say, this is not how the story is going to end.

4. Do it now. Sometimes “later” becomes “never."

5. Do what you have to do until you can do what you want to do. --Oprah

6. Don't look back you’re not going there.

7. Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

8. Every day is a second chance.

9. F.A.I.L. First Attempt In Learning

10. Fake it till you make it.

11. F.E.A.R. has two meanings: forget everything and run or face everything and rise. The choice is yours.

12. Good things come to those who work.

13. If you’re going through hell, keep going. --Winston Churchill

14. Life is tough my darling, but so are you.

15. Make it happen.

16. No matter how you feel. Get up, dress up, show up and never give up.

17. No regrets in life. Just lessons learned.

18. Nothing is impossible. The word itself says: I’m possible. --Audrey Hepburn

19. Push yourself because no one else is going to do it for you.

20. Remember that guy that gave up? Neither does anyone else.

21. "When you come to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on."--Franklin D. Roosevelt

22. When you feel like quitting, think about why you started.

23. "You are far too smart to be the only thing standing in your way." -- Jennifer Freeman

24. Your attitude determines your direction.

25. You only fail when you stop trying.

Hopefully you found some motivation in these quotes. I did not come up with any of these quotes, but they help me get through those tough days where I think I am never going to do well.

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No, You Aren't Wrong. You Should Call Out People On Their Bad Behaviors

If someone has to be the bad guy, at least know how to do it correctly.
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I'm often seen as the motherly friend due to my age, life experience, and chosen profession which fundamentally requires you to be a caring person by nature.

I give a lot of advice and I listen to a lot of problems, most of which I'm able to put some contribution in to help my friends solve their issues. I am frequently asked a similar question over and over again.

"This person is doing this. Do I call them out on it?"

Confrontations happen every day in classrooms, on the job, in dorms, with coworkers, in apartments, in families, and with friends. Sooner or later, you will have to confront someone and you're going to have to know how to do it correctly.

I had a friend, Christiana, who came to me with this very question. In her instance, a classmate who had exhibited poor behavior over the semester came into class one day only to pick an argument with the professor. The argument was purely centered around ignorance on the student's side and they refused to accept the answer the professor was providing, even though it was the correct one.

This whole incident ended up taking a large amount of learning time away from the whole class and could have easily been avoided if the student had done a basic amount of research. When Christiana told me about this, she also added: "I want to tell her I didn't appreciate how she acted, but I don't know how."

This is what I call "the call out conundrum."

You KNOW a person is wrong but you don't want to seem confrontational or rude.

Here's the thing, you won't. At least you won't later on.

In Christiana's case, she had every right to confront the student and call them out on their behavior because she's a student at this university and she paid to be in that room so she could learn. The professor's salary is paid regardless so they didn't have anything to lose, but she did.

No one likes confrontation. It's uncomfortable and often breeds hostility and an over-exaggerated reaction from the people you did confront. But there's one great benefit to doing it.

If you call someone out, they can no longer plead ignorance.

Meaning, if you tell a person straight to their face: "Hey, I didn't like the way you acted/spoke/inferred something. It wasn't right for you to do." then that person can no longer claim they didn't know their actions are wrong.

Yes, it's 2018 and we still have people who live in such an ignorant bubble that they believe everything they've done is the right thing until someone directly tells them that it was wrong. Yeah, these people exist.

By calling them out once on their behavior, they can no longer say they didn't know any better because they DO know better. You told them they were wrong already. So if they do it again, you KNOW they know they're wrong.

So how do you confront someone the right way?

1. Identify the problem and ask yourself why it's wrong.

It sounds silly but sometimes when you confront someone, it could be something that's not actually bad. I don't really like it when people hock big loogies and spit on the sidewalks, but me going up to a random stranger and telling them they're disgusting if they do isn't going to change their actions and they probably won't care if I like it or not. If you're going to confront someone, make sure you're doing it for the right reasons.

There's a difference between something being wrong and something you don't personally like. If you are unsure, ask for a second opinion from someone who is unbiased in the situatution.

2. Confront them when you're calm.

It is better not to confront someone in the heat of the moment (in most cases). You know they did something wrong, but if you confront them right after it happened chances are you're going to be too emotional about it. Your argument will deteriorate if you come in angry or sad or if you throw in curse words every other syllable.

The only exception to this? If you see something actually illegal. If you see someone steal, harm, assault, or do anything else that is against the law to another person or property, confront them right away (after you tell the proper authorities depending on the severity).

3. Prepare for backlash.

No one likes to be confronted and no one likes to be told they're wrong. That's just human nature. If you confront someone their bad behavior, be prepared for them to either get hostile or for them to deny it. Remember, the end game is not to start a fight, it's to inform someone that they need to change their behavior/attitude.

4. Be prepared to be wrong.

It happens. Sometimes things are written that are factually wrong. Sometimes we say stuff without thinking or we don't know the whole side of the story on both sides. If you call someone out and you happen to be wrong about it, just apologize and move on.

If you followed the first three steps, you did it in a calm and collected manner and prepared an argument. Arguments can be refuted and be wrong. It's okay to be wrong.

5. Remind yourself you did the right thing.

No one likes to be the bad guy in the room. But if you see something that's a direct violation of your school's, job's, or your own personal (within reason, see #1) code of ethics or set of rules, you should say something.

Because of the Bystander Effect, if you're in a large group, we will tend to automatically assume someone else will do the dirty work for you so you don't have to.

Don't assume this ever. Everyone will start to think someone else will confront them and eventually no one will do it. Step up and do it. If you confront someone and you are a part of a large group, chances are someone else has the same feelings you do and will back you up if you need to.

Being the bad guy is never fun. But if you know how to confront someone correctly and it's warranted, call them out on it. Instead of being silently frustrated over someone's poor behavior, make it known.

Be aggressive, or it's not going to change anytime soon.


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