Bad Relationships And Breakups Are Blessings In Disguise

Bad Relationships And Breakups Are Blessings In Disguise

The best was yet to come...

If you take a look at my track record with guys, you'd be astounded by how naive I've been. My friends used to joke that I have worse taste in guys than Taylor Swift. I think, though, that college is the time to experience heartbreak. It's four years of your life when you're predisposed to making poor decisions, and your love life is no exception. In the moment, a bad relationship can feel like it's the worst thing in the world (and it just might be), but in retrospect, I realize that in order to appreciate a good relationship, sometimes you need to experience a toxic one.

You appreciate the little things.

In a toxic relationship, every minuscule, somewhat considerate thing your significant other does seems like a gigantic romantic gesture because you're so accustomed to nothing at all. Girls, just because he texted you first on that one Thursday doesn't mean he's Prince Charming. Just because he's moody and mysterious, it doesn't mean he's Chuck Bass. Stop making excuses for him.

Healthy relationships are better than that.

When in a relationship like this, where it's altogether quite awful, you stay because on some rare occasions, you're happy together. The problem is that somewhere out there is a guy who will actually treat you right; your current man probably isn't him if he's treating you poorly.

You never take anything for granted.

When you enter a healthy relationship after a toxic relationship, you still appreciate teensy tiny romantic gestures. When your new significant other does something that's actually incredibly thoughtful and kind, you're over the moon. In order to appreciate the little things that make a relationship good, sometimes you have to experience the big things that make a relationship bad.

You learn what you want in a relationship.

By experiencing a bad relationship, you learn exactly what you don't want later on. In order to know something is truly great, sometimes you need to experience something that is just really bad. For example, if your ex lied to you all time, finding an honest guy will feel even better because you know how truly important honesty is in a relationship.

Now, of course, no one in their right mind should go out in search of an awful boyfriend or girlfriend and purposely try to make their lives miserable, but if you are one of those who have experienced the worst, just know the best is yet to come. Sometimes, it takes heartbreak to fall in love with someone new.

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50 Things To Be Happy About

It's the little things in life.

It is always easier to pick out the negatives in life. We tend to dwell on them and drown out the happy moments. I asked a friend to tell me something that made them happy. They sarcastically laughed at my question then thought about it for a minute. Nothing. But they could easily come up with things that made them unhappy. Then I read them my list, and they were smiling and laughing in agreement the whole time. There are so many more things to be happy and laugh about than we realize. After all- it's the little things in life that can mean the most! Here are 50 things that make me happy. What are your 50?

  1. The first warm day of the year
  2. Laughing so hard your abs ache
  3. Freshly washed sheets
  4. Looking through old pictures
  5. The smell of a coffee shop
  6. Eating cookie dough
  7. Reading a bible verse that perfectly fits your current situation
  8. Seeing someone open a gift you got them
  9. Eating birthday cake
  10. A shower after a long day
  11. Marking something off your to-do list
  12. Drinking ice cold water on a really hot day
  13. Dressing up for no reason
  14. Breakfast food
  15. Being able to lay in bed in the morning
  16. Finding something you love at the store
  17. And it’s on sale
  18. Cute elderly couples
  19. When a stranger compliments you
  20. Getting butterflies in your stomach
  21. Taking a nap
  22. Cooking something delicious
  23. Being lost for words
  24. Receiving a birthday card in the mail
  25. And there's money in it
  26. Finally cleaning your room
  27. Realizing how fortunate you are
  28. Waking up from a nightmare and realizing it wasn't real
  29. Fresh fruit
  30. Walking barefoot in the grass
  31. Singing along to a song in the car
  32. Sunrises
  33. Sunsets
  34. Freshly baked cookies with a glass of milk
  35. Summertime cookouts
  36. Feeling pretty
  37. Looking forward to something
  38. Lemonade
  39. Comfortable silences
  40. Waking up in the middle of the night and realizing you have more time to sleep
  41. Surviving another school year
  42. The cold side of the pillow
  43. The smell of popcorn
  44. Remembering something funny that happened
  45. Laughing to yourself about it
  46. Feeling weird about laughing to yourself
  47. Printed photographs
  48. Wearing a new outfit
  49. The sound of an ice cream truck
  50. Feeling confident
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Is The Bachelor Staged?

After the last few episodes some would say yes.


If you are part of "The Bachelor" nation then you know the whole season we waited for the fence jump. They pushed it out in every episode when they said, "Next time on The Bachelor."

They held us in the entire season, knowing we would watch until that episode aired. After the episode did air, it left me wondering if things on the bachelor are staged.

Colton's season was pretty bland from the beginning. Nothing much was happening besides the typical girl fights that are bound to happen every season.

Finally, it was down to the last few episodes and things started to heat up. After watching Cassie and Colton's breakup on live television, I felt my heart break into a million pieces.

Then, the famous fence jump that we waited for since episode one finally happen. Colton was so upset and heartbroken over Cassie leaving that he felt like he had no other option than to jump the fence.

After reading the article, "Colton Underwood & Cassie Randolph's Breakup Was So Staged," it left me wondering if it was even real. It is speculated that Colton was just going to let Tayshia and Hannah go and that would be the end of the show, with Cassie being the only girl left.

Since Colton's season was so bland up until Cassie and Colton's breakup and the fence jump, what if the producers made those things happen so viewers of the shows would stay interested. If it wasn't for the climactic scene, the ratings would've been low. So, they had to add a little spice to the show.

Now, this is pretty stretched since you could see in Colton's eyes during his and Cassie's breakup he was pretty heartbroken. It would be pretty hard for someone to fake that many tears. Then again, producers will make anything happen just for better ratings.

No matter what though, in the end, Colton got his happy ending with Cassie. I personally loved Cassie since day one and I was so excited to see that Colton fell in love with her, whether it was fake or not.

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