Why I Am Happy I Haven't Found My Prince Charming

Why I Am Happy I Haven't Found My Prince Charming

and why you should be too.
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From the day I watched Cinderella, I have always dreamed of growing up and finding my prince charming. The first board I made on Pinterest was a (private) wedding board.

To say that I am excited to meet the “love of my life,” get married, eat toast with this man in our jammies, have kids, and fingers crossed grow old together, would be a very underwhelming word to describe how I feel.

After experiencing my first year in college, I didn’t meet this man (at least that I know of, please contact if you are aware).

I wasn’t swept off my feet when I walked into my first class and made eye contact with “the one,” but I did meet my soul mates—not in the way I thought I would.

I met the ones who can make me laugh until my stomach burns.

I met the ones who will drive 50 miles just to celebrate my birthday for a few hours.

I met the ones who will lay in my bed with me while I cry because something tragic happened (or a Grey’s character died).

I met the ones who make weird noises and let me sing at the top of my lungs without wanting to puncture my lungs.

I met the ones who will tell me when I am being absurd when I try to join 50 clubs or am chatting to loud.

I met the ones who say the exact same thing as me at the same time because we are 90 percent sure we have the same brain.

I met my soul mates.

Cheesy. Right?

But it is true.

I discovered that I don’t need this fairytale, princess life that has been instilled in me since I was three. Yes, it would be swell if I could come home to an incredible human being at night, but that isn’t what matters. What matters is finding the ones who keep you sane.

That is what a soul mate is, the one, prince charming, and however else you would describe it. It is the ones who are there for you at 2 a.m. when the world is crashing down around you.

The moment you realize that you don't need a man is quite freeing. I'm not saying this in a "I'm so bitter" way, but more in a "I don't care" way.

Soulmates are friends, not some romantic idea that lives in your imagination.

Having a boyfriend is great and amazing, but don’t ditch the ones who would drop everything to pick you up from the airport. Those are the ones to keep around.

I walked into college *kind of * thinking I would find the one and will walk out with multiple soul mates. How lucky am I that I haven’t found my prince charming, I found a whole slew of Disney characters to help me clean up my life.

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I Blame My Dad For My High Expectations

Dad, it's all your fault.
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I always tell my dad that no matter who I date, he's always my number one guy. Sometimes I say it as more of a routine thing. However, the meaning behind it is all too real. For as long as I can remember my dad has been my one true love, and it's going to be hard to find someone who can top him.

My dad loves me when I am difficult. He knows how to keep the perfect distance on the days when I'm in a mood, how to hold me on the days that are tough, and how to stand by me on the days that are good.

He listens to me rant for hours over people, my days at school, or the episode of 'Grey's Anatomy' I watched that night and never once loses interest.

He picks on me about my hair, outfit, shoes, and everything else after spending hours to get ready only to end by telling me, “You look good." And I know he means it.

He holds the door for me, carries my bags for me, and always buys my food. He goes out of his way to make me smile when he sees that I'm upset. He calls me randomly during the day to see how I'm doing and how my day is going and drops everything to answer the phone when I call.

When it comes to other people, my dad has a heart of gold. He will do anything for anyone, even his worst enemy. He will smile at strangers and compliment people he barely knows. He will strike up a conversation with anyone, even if it means going way out of his way, and he will always put himself last.

My dad also knows when to give tough love. He knows how to make me respect him without having to ask for it or enforce it. He knows how to make me want to be a better person just to make him proud. He has molded me into who I am today without ever pushing me too hard. He knew the exact times I needed to be reminded who I was.

Dad, you have my respect, trust, but most of all my heart. You have impacted my life most of all, and for that, I can never repay you. Without you, I wouldn't know what I to look for when I finally begin to search for who I want to spend the rest of my life with, but it might take some time to find someone who measures up to you.

To my future husband, I'm sorry. You have some huge shoes to fill, and most of all, I hope you can cook.

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To The Boy I’ve Been Dating Since I Was 15, I Always Knew You Were My Forever

Thank you for showing me love when I thought I didn't deserve any.

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Hey you,

People assumed our "fling" would only last a few short months. It's what everyone assumes when your first love happens during your sophomore year of high school. Yet here we stand, three and a half years later, more together than we've ever been. Although we've had our ups and downs, we still managed to keep our relationship going and to remember why we're together in the first place.

Many say loving isn't easy, but you make it a walk in the park.

You respect me in more ways than one, and you make me feel beautiful, inside and out. For a long time, I never noticed the beauty and strength I have within myself. I didn't see what others would point out to me, and at times I still find it hard to acknowledge my worth. However, you came into my life at a time when I felt I had no one, and you helped me to see all I have to offer. You helped me to open my mind to the thought of loving myself for who I am, and although the road is long and I'm not completely there, you've made me see how worthy of love I truly am.

Having you as my best friend, along with being my boyfriend, is the most rewarding feeling in the world.

I think the reason we rarely fight or stay angry with each other is that we truly are best friends. We could spend all of our time in deep conversation about any topic in the world and still feel engaged and ready to hear more from one another. Every single day I learn something new about you and vice versa. We can be ourselves in each other's presence and have fun doing absolutely nothing exciting. I am easily annoyed by a lot of things, but you are not one of them. Being with you for hours, even if we just watch TV the entire time, never gets repetitive or boring.

You treated me with the respect I deserved before I even realized I was worthy of it.

In many ways, I don't respect myself. Whether it be body image or letting "friends" walk all over me, I let many thoughts and people control my life. You, however, were the saving grace I needed. You've shown me how I deserve to be treated and how I should think of myself. Often I wonder how I got so lucky to end up with someone who loves me unconditionally and who values everything I have to offer. I say all the time that I don't deserve your heart, your kindness, your love, but you always remind me that I do. And I'm starting to realize that you're right; I deserve every bit of love, kindness, and respect that you have to offer. I can only hope that I award you with the same love and selflessness you give me every single day.

Three and a half years with someone may seem extremely long, but I feel as though we've been together a lifetime. It's hard to remember a time when you weren't right there beside me, and I would never want to imagine a future without you in it. There are so many more laughs, adventures, and memories to be made with you, and I only hope that I can be at least half of the person you are.

Thank you for pulling me out of the darkness. Today, tomorrow, and always.

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