Some people talk about the stereotypical sorority things, we pay for our friends, all we do is drink, or that we are just stupid and vapid. Other people talk about all the amazing these that come with being in a sorority and there are so many amazing things. But they forget to mention the not so amazing things. The decisions you have to make about what is really your priority, which is always your education.
No one ever talks about what when you feel like giving up. Most sorority women are involved in so many other things besides just classes and sororities, our plates are full and sometimes we don't even have time to sleep. Our sorority is our second love but sometimes it's just overwhelming. Mandatory meetings, study hours, volunteer hours, philanthropy events it's a big responsibility to take on but you love it. Even when you feel like hating it, you still have a love for it. So many things add up and you feel like your plate is completely full. You feel overwhelmed with stress and anxiety about if you're being a good sorority member and a good student all at the same time,.
Sometimes you feel like you are giving so much of yourself to your chapter but no one notices, other times you wonder why you're even there when you feel like you don't do very much because of other commitments. When you are paying for you own education, you are probably paying for your sorority so you need a job but sometimes that job can interfere with sorority events and you have to choose which one to do and your job comes first. You have your sorority family who you want to be there for whenever they need something but it's hard to be there for them when you can barley find time to sleep.
You think your best decision is to drop but when you drop so much is taken away. Of course you free up some time for yourself by not having to go to weekly meetings but you also loose so much. Your family, and all of your friends will still be your friends and will still love you but you miss out on the formals, socials, and sisterhood events. You miss out on meeting all the new members and getting to know them wondering if you want to be a big. You miss out on the alumni ceremony, You miss out on so much.
When you think about dropping, also think about everything that you have accomplished within your sorority and because of your sorority. Also think of all the amazing people you have met because of your sorority. Friendships that will last a lifetime, all of the late nights you got to stay awake with them making memories. It's such an amazing thing and we forget it sometimes.