It is time to be that woman we encourage our friends to be.
Time to take the advice we have been instilling into others as long as we have been women.
Growing up in a time like this, we think it is normal to drown in the expectations of what you need to reach to be a woman. But society does not control what it means to be a woman in your own walk.
Everything you speak, negative or positive, will bring light or darkness to your world.
What do we need to be the woman we have desired to be? Do we need a large group of friends to remind you that you are pretty and how fun you are to be around? A guy to text you every day and post cute photos of you to prove to you and the world that you have a relationship that everyone envies? To have a plethora of Instagram followers that are loyal to your photos but would never think about saying hi to you in public?
When is it time to love yourself, to know your worth of a woman, and understand that it is better to stand alone than be surrounded with people that are not worthy of you?
Society has told you, that it is weird to dance alone. No matter what, grab a partner and dance even if that person is completely wrong for you.
"I'm just texting him because I'm bored. When someone else comes around I'll stop."
"I'll stop getting drunk out on weekends when I get a boyfriend."
These are a few things that have came out of the mouths of girls that have tried to fill the hole in the bottom of their stomach with a physical being.
If you are ever going to be healthy to be with someone, you have to be healthy for you, healthy enough to stand alone, to dance alone, and not needing to be holding someone's hand in the process of growth.
It has been pounded into the heads of young girls that they need to have a significant other and they need to be physical for that relationship to become real to society.
We have glorified being with someone rather than glorifying finding the woman we were destined to become.
Instead of finding the person that you fit well with, and trying to fit into their circle.
Change the expectation.
Wait to find someone that fits with you. Instead of finding your worth in a man, find the worth inside of yourself, then find someone that is worthy of your presence.
Go to that restaurant and reserve a table for one.
Get in your car and drive to your favorite spot and sit there with a good book.
Get on the dance floor and dance like you are the only one there.
Wear that outfit because you think it's cute.
Be strong enough to walk away from something that you know is not good for you. Because it is time to love yourself and understand this is not all your world has to offer, and he is not the end of your book.
The coffee might be gone, the song is over, and the sun might have set. But this is not the end.
It is just making room for a new beginning.
