Truth be told: I have the worst luck with guys. You see, I have a tendency of meeting guys at the bar. Great, right? Wrong, so wrong. They all appear great until you figure out their hidden agenda— they are NOT serious about anything. They just want to have fun with no strings attached. Fair enough, but I'm not that kind of girl so naturally, I tell them to buzz off.
Recently, my friends seem to only want to talk about Bumble these days. I've also heard nothing but positive experiences from them which instantly sparked my curiosity.
Full disclaimer: I've never been on a dating app.
I've heard so many horror stories from people using Tinder. I never wanted to be a Tinderella looking for her Tinder fella. I just wanted to find a guy that could make me laugh and engage in endless conversation with me. Didn't think I was asking for too much...
So when I heard about Bumble, I had to go on to see what the buzz was all about.
Turns out, the ladies make the first move...in everything. The Queen bees get to swipe through a hive full of profiles and the guys are just waiting to hear the vibrating buzz from their phones that someone is interested in them. The thought of me making the first move was a mix of liberating and daunting. People would argue otherwise, but for a girl like me who is an extrovert and enjoys face-to-face conversations, I had numerous moments where I wanted to break out in hives from how nervous I got.
As I went on my swiping spree, I noticed how judgmental people can be. Let's be honest, looks matter. You need to have some physical attraction to the guy, but it shouldn't stop there! They need to have a personality to match their charming looks.
While I was going through these profiles, I was paying close attention to what kind of pictures these guys chose to display.
The pictures you post say a lot about you without saying anything at all. A picture of you and your mom shows me how much you value family and that you're close with your family. Just like pictures reeking of pub infested fun shows me that you like to have a good time, but may not be serious.
After looking at their pictures, I'd examine the guy's bio. Describing yourself and interests is crucial to me. It can even be a dealbreaker for me swiping left or right. If they didn't have a bio, I would then have the impression that they weren't too serious about the app and just got it in the attempt to snag some honey.
What no one tells the newbies of the online dating realm is that you'll swipe across guy friends from high school and college.
This may be an awkward encountering. In the words of Beyonce, swipe "to the left, to the left."
Regardless, the whole point of Bumble is to get the ball rolling as soon as possible. You get 24 hours to make the first move and then the guy gets 24 hours to respond. If nothing happens on either end, the connection is deleted and you're on to the next connection. It's that simple. No stings, no hard feelings.
Overall, Bumble pushes the ladies out of their comfort zone and gets sparks flying faster. I can definitely attest to some sparks flying...
Now, the question remains:
Am I going to continue using Bumble? Honey, we shall see.