No one ever wants to think about a broken heart. It straight up sucks to feel so sad and lonely. Most people don’t consider when their world might feel like its falling apart that they’re becoming stronger and wiser in the long run. But you learn. You grow. And you move on. Here’s a list of some important things you learn from heartbreak.
1. How you should actually be treated
How many times do we see friends and loved ones being treated so badly by someone but still put up with it. When you have your heart broken, you stop and realize that this isn’t what it’s supposed to be like. You’re not supposed to be this sad over a person. You have a life to live and should only be surrounding yourself with good vibes. A broken heart helps you see that. You see that that’s not what you deserve. You deserve eternal happiness and an exciting love that still gives you butterflies when you see them. You should have someone who is willing to lay down in a puddle so your shoes don’t get wet (not literally), but someone who is so crazy about you they’d do just about anything. That is how you should be treated, and heartbreak shows you not to settle for what you had.
2. The importance of friends
That boy or girl that swept you off your feet might have been the greatest thing in this world, but they’re gone. Your friends don’t just get up and leave you. They’re in it for the long run no matter what. Heartbreak shows you how important it is to have friends to hold you when you’re sad, to then pick you up and get you back on your feet. They take your side, but also become a voice of reason when you need them most. They say what you might not want to hear, but only because they care about you. They don’t want to see you broken so they will do anything to fix you.
3. How to pick yourself back up
With a broken heart, comes the broken feelings. But in that, you learn to not rely on one person for your happiness. You learn how to create it yourself. Christina Yang once said, “He’s very dreamy, but he is not the sun, you are” and that might be the truest thing I have ever read. You make your own sunshine. You can choose to be sad, or you can choose to get out there and show the world who you are. You become that much stronger when you fix your own pieces.
4. How to do things for yourself
If you want to go on five dates a week, do it. Do not be so concerned with what everyone thinks about you. You have no one to take care of except yourself. And in that case, do everything you didn’t or couldn’t do when you were in a relationship. Spend a weekend watching movies only you like. Make a playlist of your favorite songs. Go out to eat for YOUR favorite food. Do not let the idea of being alone stop you from doing things for yourself. It’s going to be worth it in the long run when someone comes along that has similar interests as you because you finally started doing what you wanted.
5. How to really love
In our life, we say “I love you” without actually knowing the real feelings of those words. It isn’t until heartbreak hits that you realize the person you “loved” may not hold those feelings. And truth is, you probably didn’t either. Heartbreak opens up a world of emotions, but it also opens up doors. You could be heartbroken, but now you’re single. That means you can date and try again. When you find that special someone, you’ll know if it’s real love. It feels different than anything you’ve ever emotionally felt towards someone. Words actually don’t do it justice. But because it’s NOTHING like how you felt prior to any heartbreak, you know when it’s real.
