Most of us have been there. We go to pull on those winter jeans and suddenly we're doing the pants dance across the bedroom floor, praying we have a pair of spanx or a loose shirt to cover up our newly developed love handles.

Suddenly we're terrified. We start thinking of every person who knew us when we were thinner. We think about the nasty thoughts they must be having about us. We begin to see body shaming all around us, people assuming our lifestyle choices and determining what body type looks healthy.

To anyone who may judge another for their body's shape or size, I have one thing to say...

If you shame others who might not be your idea of healthy, shame on you. There is so much more you could be doing with your passion for health. You could be encouraging others in a positive way rather than making them feel embarrassed, shamed or unattractive. Go for a walk with us, meet up with us for a nutritious dinner, provide us with opportunities for growth and make us feel loved and accepted for who we are.

Don't get me wrong, we don't want to be coddled while we binge eat our lives away, but while you may think that your shaming is going to make us change our bad habits, you're beyond mistaken. Because once someone hits a certain level of poor body image, it is far more mental than it is physical. Sometimes, it seems or feels impossible to get back on the right path with our bodies.

There is nothing wrong with encouraging others to live a healthy lifestyle, in fact, it's very important. But it's also important to know that it's okay for our bodies to change throughout our lives. We will gain and lose weight and that's okay. The important thing is to love and to feel good about ourselves.

We don't need to be shamed to get to the point of healthy. Yes, I said healthy, not skinny. Because the truth is, not everyone is meant to be skinny, or at least society's definition of the word. We're meant to be whoever and whatever we feel most comfortable as and as long as we are treating our bodies with the respect it deserves, it doesn't matter what we look like.

We shouldn't be body shaming, we should be health promoting. When people lose their way and take their youth and their health for granted, we need to be supportive and encouraging, not judgmental and cruel. If we live healthy, happy lives doing what we love with people who care about and support us, we will be beautiful, sexy and attractive. No one can or will make us feel otherwise.