I will never understand what the big deal is about being raw with feelings in this day and time. Besides the point, most people do not seem to care about what they post on social media anyway in regards to politics or the latest trending topic. There are so many aspects of social media that are simply just "out there" for everyone that follows you to engage in. Go to any persons page and under their about me or bio tab, you will learn just about enough information to know who they are, if they are single, what they almost look like (because filters can be deceiving) and an estimated age. Some profiles even have featured photos that allow visitors to see their most commonly viewed or favorite photos immediately. Basically, you can learn who this person cares about or at least pretends to care about, simply by typing in their name and clicking.
The point in saying all of that is it is easy. 2016 is not comparable to 1970 when social media was nonexistent. Literally, at the palm of your fingertips is the world. This is scary, very scary, especially for those "in a relationship" with someone that is very dear to their heart.
So here is the thing, why on earth are people still cheating. What exactly is the deal with it. I mean last time I checked, you can send a friend or follow request to anyone and be approved within 5 minutes, which is considered a slow response in terms of social media. If anything, cheating should have decreased as social media has risen, simply because you can now see who is and is not in a relationship for the most part if they have social media. If you simply are not happy, just walk away, there is no reason to continue being dissatisfied with your life.
For example, said guy messages a girl. He looks the girl up, sees she is single. Then she looks him up, sees he is tagged in 100+ photos with his girlfriend, yet still replies. Now granted, I know he is really at fault, but really they both are. He knew, she knew, they both knew. Except one person missed the memo, the girl that was the girlfriend.
So it continues, they message, back and forth everyday. Since smart phones exist and have a turn off notifications option, the guy is able to be with his girlfriend and never be caught because she literally has no clue. However, the messages turn into phone calls which turn into meetings, which turn into, you know.
Then there is the girlfriend, still posting her love and her continued admiration for her guy, because she is blind sided by this, remember, she never got a "notification" that it was going on.
Eventually, the girlfriend catches on, catches them up in the act and then begins to blame herself, like so many other girls do in todays society. She seems to be more angry at the girl, than the guy and switches back and forth. As she gets closer to healing she realizes that the two people that ruined something she had never had to feel what she did.
They never had to feel the ache that hit her toes as she read messages between the guy she loved and another girl.
They never had to pull over on the side of the road to stop and catch their breath and clear their eyes because a song brought everything back up.
They never had to feel the emptiness of a bed like she did when she reached out for someone she should not even miss.
They never had to feel the desire to lose weight, be prettier, skinner, or to be more like "her" because she felt like she was never enough.
They never had to feel the mistrust that engulfed her body, even with her own family as she started to view everything as a lie.
They never had to walk in public and feel embarrassed just to pick up some milk and bread, but she did.
They never had to feel the pain she felt because they were so caught up in the moment of each other that they could not even see what they were doing to someone, who was literally caught in the middle of something she never saw coming.
They never had to feel what she felt and they probably never will. They both continue with their lives, have a guilty conscience (hopefully) and still never feel what she felt. So here she stands, along with thousands of other women that have been caught by the social media trap of today. Somewhere along the way of life, our generation lost this thing called respect. People hook up and break off things that could have lasted a lifetime, just for a little "high" in the rush of the busy today's we embrace.
Ladies, respect yourselves and respect others. If you see someone is in a relationship, have enough decency about yourself not to message back. If you are not sure, then look into it. What they did not have to feel is tearing apart families, ruining relationships, and leading to ruined self-images all over a few messages, a hook-up or a phone call. Be loyal, be truthful, be honest. Have respect for yourself because if you do not, no one else will. Besides, your soul-mate, husband or wife will usually not arrive with a significant other attached. It's possible, but rare.
Love yourself first, trust your instincts and remember that the lowest kind of man is one that can look you in the eye and say "I love you" knowing there is another woman waiting for his call.
