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Self-Love Won't Work If It's Just You Splurging On Superficial Items

Treat yourself to some real self-love.

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Feb 26, 2019

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Self-Love Won't Work If It's Just You Splurging On Superficial Items

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Self-love is more than just a trend. It's more than bubble baths and face masks and treating yourself. Lately, the media has made it hard to distinguish between true self-love versus flat out splurging on superfluous luxury items (yay for consumerism).

I'm here to tell you the truth. Self-love isn't always pretty. It's not always Instagram worthy. In fact, sometimes it's downright ugly.

Self-love is evaluating and recognizing areas in your life that need improvement. It's removing any toxicity that's keeping you from being the best version of yourself. It's thinking about actions you can take now to improve your life in the future.

Self-love is being kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you are always learning and growing. Encourage yourself the same way you would encourage a good friend. Sometimes you will need to be your own #1 fan and self-love is acknowledging that fact and owning it.

Self-love is also being honest with yourself. Constructive criticism can be kind. Have you been procrastinating more often lately? Are you beginning to neglect your health? Could you use a stricter financial plan? Be honest with yourself, but don't forget to be kind.

Self-love is shifting your focus away from the negative BUT (this is important) fixing areas that you can improve. Identify areas of your life that are making you unhappy. The things that you can't change- shift your focus to the positive. The things that you can change- show yourself some love and go change them. Don't pressure yourself to become a new person overnight either. Self-love takes time and that's OK.

Self-love could be joining a gym. It could be cutting off toxic friends. It could also be giving up alcohol or taking a shower or creating a budget or applying for grad school. Self-love comes in many different forms; it is different for everyone. It's all about recognizing your personal needs and goals and acting upon them.

Finally, self-love is about becoming the best version of yourself you can be. If that version of yourself wants to take a bubble bath and put on a face mask, then they should.

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The Best Lines from the Fab Four

And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make

The sun is up, the sky is blue, it's beautiful and so are you

Love is old, love is new, love is all, love is you

There's nowhere you can be that isn't where you're meant to be

Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing and fighting, my friend

He say, "I know you, you know me", One thing I can tell you is you got to be free

Oh please, say to me, You'll let me be your man. And please say to me, You'll let me hold your hand

It was twenty years ago today, Sgt. Pepper taught the band to play. They've been going in and out of style, but they're guaranteed to raise a smile

Living is easy with eyes closed, misunderstanding all you see

Can you hear me? When it rains and shine, it's just a state of mind

Little darling, it's been long cold lonely winter. Little darling, it feels like years since it' s been here. Here comes the sun, Here comes the sun, and I say it's alright

We danced through the night and we held each other tight, and before too long I fell in love with her. Now, I'll never dance with another when I saw her standing there

I love you, I love you, I love you, that's all I want to say

You say you want a revolution. Well you know, we all want to change the world

All the lonely people, where do they all come from. All the lonely people, where do they all belong

Oh, I get by with a little help from my friends

Hey Jude, don't make it bad. Take a sad song and make it better

Yesterday, all my troubles seemed so far away. Now it looks as though they're here to stay. Oh, I believe in yesterday

And when the brokenhearted people, living in the world agree, there will be an answer, let it be.

And anytime you feel the pain, Hey Jude, refrain. Don't carry the world upon your shoulders

I'll give you all I got to give if you say you'll love me too. I may not have a lot to give but what I got I'll give to you. I don't care too much for money. Money can't buy me love

All you need is love, love is all you need

Whisper words of wisdom, let it be

Blackbird singing in the dead of night, Take these broken wings and learn to fly. All your life, You were only waiting for this moment to arise

Though I know I'll never lose affection, for people and things that went before. I know I'll often stop and think about them. In my life, I love you more

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There have been many lessons learned.

1. The importance of traditions.

2. How to be thankful for family and friends.

3. How to give back.

4. What the word "community" really means.

5. That it isn't about the destination, but the journey.

6. The consequences of making bad choices.

7. To trust people, until you have a reason not to.

8. To be welcoming and accepting of everyone.

9. How to be my own, individual person.

10. How to work for what I want.

11. How to be great at giving directions.

12. How to be humble.

13. To be well-rounded.

14. How to be great at conflict resolution.

15. The beauty of getting outside and exploring.

16. To be prepared for anything.

17. That you don't always have to do it alone.

18. How to be creative.

19. To brush off gossip.

I have never been so thankful to know you.

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

Don't freak out

Email the professor

Attend the first class

Keep attending class

Have a backup plan

Remember that everything works out at the end

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