What is Love?
There are countless movies, quotes, songs, and feelings that come along with the very idea of love. What is love, though? What are its qualities? Sometimes it seems untouchable. It lies within in our minds and controls our every whim. We fall victim to its power coursing through our veins. An unworldly, even supernatural course of action lies at the root of our flower. Insatiable and unrefined, it blossoms. Indescribable, yet bursting through the seams, you take notice.
Do we ever stop loving?
It’s funny how your mind is already on someone, bouncing around the walls of your head. On repeat, acid reflux brings the name back up. It’s repugnant, disgusting, and you hate the feeling. Yet, you want more. The patterns never quite kick. Your art turns into poetry, and naturally you shine. Don’t you feel good? Hoping to attract an onlooker and waiting for nature to take its course. Insides pour out, naturally, though remain latent to the eye. As warm as ever with nowhere to go, you lie. Coy and mystique, the beggar cries out. Climbing out of your vacant eye, vantablack draped over everything.
No one ever stops loving. Even when someone you love leaves, you never cease thinking about the person. Looking at life from an idealist point of view, every truth stems from ideas. There is nothing else in life than ideas and how they affect our emotion. We can still love without it being physically in our life. It is why we say Good-bye to others when they leave. Like God, we know they are never truly gone but remain in our minds and hearts, forever.
Why Love?
Does anyone have a choice when it comes to love, or is a course that has already taken action, innate within us?
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Love is a chemical reaction, yes, but it is also much more than that. Seeking out and having lover is natural to being a human, as we live with the awareness of anxiety and death. No one wants to feel alone in our isolated experience that is human consciousness. We find others to fill the void and never feel quite alone. Inner-peace is reached.
Our body is also biologically set-up to procreate. Humans instinctively pair up, as it's what we've been programmed to do. Love is natural.
Becoming a mother or father has also been known to rewire the brain. It's been known that mothers have a special bond with their children, but it's now suggested that men do, as well. Parenting networks take action in the brain when having a child.
What are we looking for?
Psychologists say that when we are looking for love, we are doing so much more than seeing if the other is compatible. There are machinations on a much deeper level at play. The unconscious works in full swing all of the time when searching for a partner. Humans intrinsically search for someone who can fill in their own faults. In other words, we love in others what we lack in ourselves. For example, if you are shy, then chances are you are going to be attracted to someone who is easily outgoing. They make what you fear look effortless.
Researchers have also argued that we are looking for ourselves in the search for love. A significant other who is exactly like yourself, laughs at all your jokes, and completely understands you is rare to come across. These desires lie at the bottom of our underground plethora of desires, though. Freudian complexes, drives, and other psychoanalytic theories argue that our love is almost beyond control, let alone comprehension.
The nebulous concept that is love will forever mystify culture. It takes control of our power, emotion, and will. Love will make you suffer. Jealously will rip out all of your hair. However, love remains a constant and something we'll never give up on, even if we were given the choice.
