From "relationship goals" to the "perfect" someone. Between "Netflix and chill" and playing games, the true meaning of a relationship was lost. The modern dating era is too scared to feel anything genuine because it is not the casual thing to do.
Everyone is too worried about finding the "perfect" someone, playing games, and trying to live up to everyone's "relationship goals." PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: the romance you see in the movies is not real, it is called acting for a reason. Also, trying to live up to all these other relationships needs to stop. One, that is not your relationship and for two, you have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. It is more important to most to post pictures of their significant other on social media expressing their love for them, rather than looking at the person and telling them to their face because they want everyone to see them as "goals." In the process of trying to live up to all these goals and searching for the "perfect" person you created in your head you miss out on some great opportunities. So stop searching and live your life, the right person will come to you when it's time. However, since you have this crazy portrait in your head of the perfect someone you are too worried about they way someone looks rather than what they have to offer. Looks matter to an extent, but those fade and personality remains the same.
On another hand, what is "Netflix and chill?" What happened to going on actual dates? Asking someone on a date is not texting them at night saying "Hey, let's hangout" then bringing them straight to your room. No, I do not want to hangout. Take me on a date for goodness sake. A date is calling someone or showing up and ASKING them out to dinner or to a movie even taking a drive and just talking about life to one another and showing each other your favorite songs. Actual conversations seem to be a joke because we would rather hide behind our phones and talk about how you feel rather than having a meaningful conversation face to face. Sit down with someone and tell them about yourself, share all the little things that no one really knows about you. Being in a relationship is so much more than being physical, it's about loving someone and wanting to know everything about them. However, for some reason this generation just does not understand that.
Also, what is with playing games? You tell someone you like them but then go days without talking to them because ... Oh that's right, because if someone shows too much interest in you they're clingy and if they don't show enough they do not care. That makes total sense, when did it become a crime to legitimately care for someone and want to show that? I guess since everyone started doing it and no one can be different. What happened to manning up and telling someone how you feel and meaning it? When you are arguing and actually talking about it instead of running away? We would rather avoid feelings and problems in relationships than actually trying to make things work because it is the easier thing to do. Is that why the "talking" stage became a thing because it is easier than being in a relationship? The way it seems to me, when you are talking to someone you believe you still have the right to do whatever you feel because you are not "tied down." However, talking is basically dating without the label in my opinion.
Relationships these days are so much more complicated then they need to be. It seems to be like there are guidelines that must be followed to be the "perfect" relationship. NEWS FLASH: no relationship is going to be the same, so stop trying to make it that way. It is like y'all either go by everyone's standards of how your relationship is going to be or it is not going to make it. Come again? How about this if you are happy with someone and y'all are happy with one another that is all that matters. Stop trying to force something that is not there to live up to everyone's expectations. People really think too much into relationships, I can promise you just because they have not texted you back in ten minutes does not mean they are not interested. People have lives and get busy, if you are worried about how long it takes them to text back and that shows whether or not they are into you, than I believe you have bigger issues. Like I said before, if you are happy with someone than be happy stop worrying about others expectations of how your relationship should be. Ignore them and do you.
What happened to being old fashioned and genuine? Generations before us have been together for years, and get this talking to each other about their problems was normal rather than tweeting about it for all to see. Showing someone off meant actually taking them out in public, rather than just posting about them on every social media account you have. Expressing your feelings was looking at them not simply texting them "ily." A date was going to dinner or a movie, even a walk in the park not staying in the room and watching Netflix. A relationship back then was only between you and your significant other, not you two and all of your followers on twitter. So I say why not bring old fashioned dating back, it worked back then so why can't it still work now?
