Divorce is more common today than it has ever been in the United States of America and usually you, or someone you know has been affected by a divorce. The sad epidemic is something that all ages struggle to cope with whether you are four or forty, sometimes things just do not work out. I have had really mixed feelings about divorce especially since my parents only have been divorced for four years. There is one thing, however, I choose to take away from my unhappy happenstance; You can always learn something.
Divorce teaches you that sometimes love just isn't enough. Growing up you watch all these fairy tales and maybe not out loud but somewhere in there you think that is the way life is supposed to be. You think because he loves you, you should stay. If you do not think that you can live with the choices your significant other has made, just because you love them or they love you may not be enough of a reason to stay.
Divorce teaches you that life will move on. When your parents sit you down and tell you that they are no longer going to be together it almost feels like the end of the world. They tell you over and over again it isn't your fault but it feels that way and you think that life will never be the same. It won't, but it will move forward. You will learn how to move on and eventually there will be a new normal and you might not even realize it when it happens.
Divorce teaches you that you can have more than one soulmate. My grandparent split and got remarried before I was even born and they are happier than ever. Sometimes the plans change and that change is for the better and because you have met this new person you can be a better version of yourself and that is honestly all that matters.
Divorce teaches you that relationships end, and that's normal. My teenage broken heart almost never registered that just because we broke up doesn't mean that I would never find love again. After I experienced this I figured out that in order to be non toxic and more loving sometimes things need to come to an end and you can look for someone better suited for you. Yes I still got my heart broken, but from then on I knew it was probably for the best.
Divorce teaches you about forgiveness. This one was hard for me to write because on some levels there probably won't ever be a full feeling of forgiveness, but that's okay. In my journey I had to forgive in order for my anger and anxiety to become something of the past and honestly in doing so I feel better. I may not like you, but I will always love you and that is what forgiving has brought me.
Lastly divorce teaches you about love. How to love, how not to love, how love looks, how it doesn't, what you should do for those you love, and what you should do for those that love you. Sometimes, though it may be a hard decision, divorce is the only way that anyone can be happy. So this sad epidemic is growing and though it doesn't seem to have a bright side I found my own, and that's what divorce has taught me.
