If I’ve learned anything on the rollercoaster ride that was 2016, it’s that you are your own best friend. People are going to come in and out of your life because they are supposed to, but at the end of the day, you [and you alone] are the only one in control of your happiness.

That’s a huge responsibility, waking up day after day, ensuring that your mind and body are happy and healthy -- but it doesn’t have to be as hard as it sounds. I’m a big believer in serendipity, and I wholeheartedly believe that the little things are the key to happiness. So if you’re looking to take better care of yourself this year, and maybe become a little more mindful, here are some little things to practice every day that will help you get there.

1. Don't take anything personally.

When someone says something to hurt you, it’s more likely their problem than yours. Some people will take things out on you, rise above it. You’re worth more than that.

2. Let yourself feel all the feelings.

Give yourself permission to scream, cry, laugh and sing. Never deny yourself the opportunity to release frustration or let loose.

3. Find a hobby and fall in love with it.

Go to concerts, pick up a guitar, go to a dance class, read books, knit sweaters. Let yourself enjoy the good things in the world.

4. Drink water and tea.

It does wonders, trust me.

5. Keep a journal.

Write down the things that you’re thankful for, the things that make you feel alive and the things that you’ll do next.

6. Acknowledge your limits.

When it’s time to stop drinking, stop drinking. When you’re full, stop eating. When you’re tired, go to sleep. When it’s time to go, leave in peace.

7. Be yourself, unapologetically.

You don’t get to be anyone else in this life, so take this time to be whoever it is you want to be. You, and no one else.

8. Be kinder to yourself and others.

Karma will thank you.

9. Go outside.

It's a big world, go look at it.

10. Make a really, really good playlist.

The studies have said it, music makes you happier. There you have it, a daily mood-booster right at your fingertips!


11. Meditate. Meditate. Meditate.

You’ve probably heard it before, and you’ll probably hear it again. Take ten minutes a day and it will do you mind and body more good than you realize.

12. Declutter.

Donate the clothes you haven’t worn in three years, raid the shoe rack, clean off “the chair,” and rid your room of anything crowding up your space. Make your room a serene shelter, not a manifestation of your stress.

13. Exercise.

It’s good for the mind, the body and sure as hell the self esteem.

14. Tell whoever you love that you love them.

That's always something you'll never regret doing.

15. Cuddle.

It's good for you.

16. Control what you can. Confront what you can't.

It's the best advice I've ever been given.