Do you ever wish that you could turn your brain off?

I wish this quite often. Sometimes, I wish I could put a halt to the the spiraling thoughts going on inside my head, especially the ones that I can't change. I tend to overthink the most when I am alone and bored, so that is why I try to keep myself busy. These thoughts can drive us absolutely insane to the point where it feels like there is never a sense of peace.

If you are reading this and you are an over-thinker too, I know how it feels. Overthinking makes your head hurt and sometimes even your heart. I want to tell you that it is okay to overthink sometimes because it means that you care. You care a lot about the situation that took place or words that were said because it meant a lot to you and you cared about what happened in that time and place. If you tend to overthink then you probably also over-love. You never want to hurt anyone because you are always trying to make others happy. You also may fear that someone will receive the wrong message from you, leaving you with the feeling that you should have said or done something different.

Just like that, you find yourself analyzing every conversation, every text message, every action, or simply every situation. You may think about all of the things that you could have, should have, or would have done. I fall into this trap all the time where I am left questioning "well what if I would've done this" or "what if I would have said that". It ends up being a revolving cycle of "what ifs". That is what will drive you crazy. Unfortunately, we cannot go back in time and change the way things have happened so here are a few reminders if you feel yourself stuck in a tunnel of revolving thoughts.

First of all, never ever let your thoughts define you. Remember that what you are probably overthinking is something that happened in the past. You cannot change what happened now. All you can do is learn from it and grow from it. Each day you can start with a clean slate to be better than you were the day before. Your internal thoughts do not determine who you are on the outside. You get to chose who are and who you will be.

Remember to surround yourself with positive people. When you are surrounding yourself with upbeat, positive people, the toxic thoughts that go on inside your head usually disappear. Find people who believe in you and lift you up; it really does help you get out of your head somewhat. These people are a true blessing.

Most importantly... be confident! Be confident in who you are, what you say, and what you do. You are strong, you are beautiful, and you are smart. Do not let your thoughts tell you otherwise. You are going to do great things in life, but in order to do those great things you gotta be confident and believe in yourself because if you do not believe in yourself, then most others won't either. Never let overwhelming thoughts convince you that you can't do what you want to do. You cannot always control your thoughts, but you can control how you let them affect you.

I know it is hard. There is nothing wrong with you, it is just how your mind works. Do what you love for you and place your focus on only what you can control.