To The Girl Who Overthinks, Here's Some Advice

To The Girl Who Overthinks, Here's Some Advice

You are Beyoncé, and your overthinking is your haters.

If overthinking was an Olympic sport, I'd have too many gold medals to count. All my life, I've constantly thought about things way longer than I should have. I create stress for myself that shouldn't exist in the first place. I think about things to the point where I create scenarios in my head that aren't even real.

Women typically overthink more so than men; that's just how we're wired. However, it can get to a point where overthinking begins to control your life. You can't even have conversations with people without wondering what they're thinking about or if you're annoying them.

I've been at that point before many times. I'm an extrovert, but overthinking causes me to be very introverted in some social situations. I feel as though I can't be myself because I've overthought the situation and convinced myself that I was extremely annoying and didn't say anything right. I unintentionally push people away and make myself miserable. You'll never know what someone is thinking - it's impossible.

You must reach the point where it doesn't matter what other people think. People will always have opinions; that's inevitable. However, you need to realize that not every opinion is relevant. The way someone perceives a conversation isn't relevant. A person's opinion of you isn't relevant, no matter how much you try to convince yourself it is.

You must stop caring about what other people think and focus on being yourself. If someone doesn't like you, so what? There will always be people who don't like you, and that's okay. As the importance of other people's opinions declines, your happiness level will rise. When I finally stopped caring about what other people think, it's like I became a brand new person. I no longer dreaded being around people - instead, I chose to be myself and really enjoyed being social.

Self-confidence is a key factor in overcoming overthinking. Many people fail to realize just how important self-confidence really is. Of course, there's a difference between self-confidence and arrogance. You can feel good about yourself and believe in your abilities without telling the world about it.

Don't come across as conceited-- remain humble. Think positive thoughts about yourself and realize that the only person causing you pain is yourself. You are Beyonce, and your overthinking is your haters. Beyonce speaks the truth in many of her songs, including these lyrics: "I know the world, and I know who I am - it’s about time I show it." The only way you can show your true colors is if you put yourself on the canvas rather than hiding behind it. Channel your inner Beyonce, and show the world who you truly are.

Cover Image Credit: Instagram - @beyonce

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I Weigh Over 200 Lbs And You Can Catch Me In A Bikini This Summer

There is no magic number that determines who can wear a bikini and who cannot.

It is about February every year when I realize that bikini season is approaching. I know a lot of people who feel this way, too. In pursuit of the perfect "summer body," more meals are prepped and more time is spent in the gym. Obviously, making healthier choices is a good thing! But here is a reminder that you do not have to have a flat stomach and abs to rock a bikini.

Since my first semester of college, I've weighed over 200 pounds. Sometimes way more, sometimes only a few pounds more, but I have not seen a weight starting with the number "1" since the beginning of my freshman year of college.

My weight has fluctuated, my health has fluctuated, and unfortunately, my confidence has fluctuated. But no matter what, I haven't allowed myself to give up wearing the things I want to wear to please the eyes of society. And you shouldn't, either.

I weigh over 200lbs in both of these photos. To me, (and probably to you), one photo looks better than the other one. But what remains the same is, regardless, I still chose to wear the bathing suit that made me feel beautiful, and I'm still smiling in both photos. Nobody has the right to tell you what you can and can't wear because of the way you look.

There is no magic number that equates to health. In the second photo (and the cover photo), I still weigh over 200 lbs. But I hit the gym daily, ate all around healthier and noticed differences not only on the scale but in my mood, my heart health, my skin and so many other areas. You are not unhealthy because you weigh over 200 lbs and you are not healthy because you weigh 125. And, you are not confined to certain clothing items because of it, either.

This summer, after gaining quite a bit of weight back during the second semester of my senior year, I look somewhere between those two photos. I am disappointed in myself, but ultimately still love my body and I'm proud of the motivation I have to get to where I want to be while having the confidence to still love myself where I am.

And if you think just because I look a little chubby that I won't be rocking a bikini this summer, you're out of your mind.

If YOU feel confident, and if YOU feel beautiful, don't mind what anybody else says. Rock that bikini and feel amazing doing it.

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The Lazy Girl's Guide To The Gym

Also, everything else you should know if you're a slightly out-of-shape girl (like me).


With my freshman year coming to an end, I realized a lot of things. I made new friends, I found new hobbies, and I learned a lot of lessons. One of them being that the "Freshman 15" is very real and very scary.

While my friends and family have attempted multiple times to convince me that I'm just being dramatic (I am), I still want to make a change in my lifestyle or I will, in all seriousness, be on track to the "Sophomore 20".

Here is a list of my best gym and healthy lifestyle tips that I am slowly attempting to live by this summer in order to resurrect Emily's 18-year-old body and health.

1. Increase water intake.

2. Find a gym buddy.

3. Start off with cardio.

4. Don't stop on your cardio until you're dripping in sweat.

5. Chug a LOT of water an hour before the gym.

Do not do it right before, or you will be in pain.

6. Eat light beforehand but just enough to hold you over. 

7. Plan out what your routine will be BEFORE you get there.

My routine: Elliptical for a mile, Stairmaster for 10 minutes, ab HIIT workout for 10 minutes, 5 more minutes on Stairmaster.

8. Buy healthy foods while you're feeling motivated.

9. Find a gym that isn't too far from your house. 

10. Don't get mad at yourself if you don't see results in a day.

I know this is a hard one.

11. Try fitness classes. 

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