Welcome to another day of tears, ice cream and rom coms. Welcome to another day of saying “boys suck” and “men are trash”. Welcome to another day of wondering if love is real.

It happened again, another boy and the same story. You met at a party, a friend’s house, class or work. He was cute and nice. He was probably a little charming but it worked on him. You exchanged numbers and snapchats. Then you talked for hours for weeks on end. As you talked you realized that you might have feelings. You thought he felt the same. Those feelings turned into coffees between class, late night food runs and movie marathons. You began to open up to him. And you felt like he was doing the same. Soon you began to see more of each other and you were on cloud nine. Then one day things stopped. Maybe he’s busy you thought. I mean you two had spent a lot of time together he’s probably just doing homework or with friends. But another day started and the texts were still coming in slow until one day they just stopped completely. You have messages left on read. Snapchats opened but not replied. You’re crushed. It’s over. How did things go from looking so good to so bad?

Sound familiar? I know I can relate. But you my friend are better than that situation. It happened but you are stronger. Yes you’re hurt right now but soon that hurt will go away. And once it’s gone you be unstoppable. You will show that boy and every other one exactly what he is missing. You will be selfish, you will work on yourself, you will not take ‘no’ for answer because you are amazing and can do anything you set your mind to.

But right now it’s okay to be hurt. It’s okay to eat your weight in ice cream and to cry until you have no tears left, watch every movie on Netflix and binge watch your favorite tv shows. Then eat more comfort food because you deserve it. You were vulnerable with yet another person who let you down, another person who saw your heart as nothing more than something that sat in your chest.

And then, when you are feeling up for it take a weekend and go out. Go out with your girlfriends. Dress up too fancy and have girls night. Go to dinner. Go to the bar. Go to a party. Flirt with the cute boys. Or just enjoy the people who will never leave your texts on read. And end the night with the perfect picture for Instagram, show that guy you don’t need him to define who you are. Show him one last time you are better off without him.

Then just as quickly as you let him into your life, forget him. If he tries to reach out ignore his messages. Do not let yourself go back to him. He has played you once so who is to say he won’t do it again?

So to the girl who got led on I want to say you are not alone, you are amazing and you do not need that guy in your life. You will one day find the most amazing guy who will treat you better and he will not lead you on but be honest with you about how he truly feels. He will answer your texts, take you on real dates, not leave you questioning your feelings and most of all treat your heart better than any other guy could. Most of all though you are not to blame for being led on. It was the guy and only him. He took the feelings you put out and played with them like they were nothing. You were just being honest and there is nothing wrong with that.