Someone wise once told me that you make time for those you want to make time for, no excuses. You'll talk to those you want to talk to, and make time to be around those you want to be around. No amount of work could keep you away from something or someone you truly want to surround yourself with. I guess I just didn't believe this was really true.
If there's something I do believe, it's that you can't lead a girl on or pretend to have a deep connection with her and then decide one day that you just don't care anymore. Because by this point, she is already invested. She's ready to be all yours, but you're still playing your silly little games, and finding out new ways to stay far away from the crazy idea of commitment.
You will only care until you don't, and when you don't, you really don't. You have a way of getting to the point of where the girl feels safe under your love and care. She may even believe that you would never ever leave her. But the day that she needs saving, you'd sure as heck never be the one to save her. That's too much for you.
Everything in the relationship is on your watch, and everything revolves around you. If she, or her plans, doesn't fit around your perfect little schedule of whatever it is that you think that you need, you won't be there. There's always something more important to do, or someone better to be with. She may invite you to exciting get-togethers, or suggest that you spend some time with her friends or family, but you only accept the invitation if there isn't something on your mind that sounds much more intriguing. Keeping her fighting for your heart is a way to show her that you hold all of the power in the relationship.
Ignoring her around others is a way to show her that she is not your top priority, and that she must fight to gain your attention. Most girls love these kind of men, for reasons I can't explain. They love the chase, even though the chase is exhausting and draining. But this isn't how it's supposed to be. Get off your high horse. If she mattered to you, you would show her off instead of leaving her in the corner.
You may have charm, and a ton of it, but you don't have a genuine character. Getting girls is easy for you with that beautiful smile and your perfect hair, and keeping her is just as easy I'm sure. Because when you want to be, you're amazing, smart, funny, and adorable, and you will treat any girl like she's a queen. But when you don't want to care, you won't care at all. You're emotionally unavailable.
Maybe this just means you need to grow up, or, maybe it means that you need time to yourself to figure out who you are apart from another person, which makes just as much sense, and I wouldn't blame you for that. But don't pretend to try if you're not ready, or if you just don't want to be committed. Honestly, pretending to try is much worse than not trying at all.
