Three Tips for a Drama-Free Life
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

Three Tips for a Drama-Free Life

Drama is hard, exhausting, and dangerous. Here are several ways to live out a drama-free life.

37
Three Tips for a Drama-Free Life
Pinterest

If I were to ask a room full of girls to be completely honest and raise their hands if they enjoyed occasional drama in their lives, I'm sure many would be guilty. But if I were to ask how many enjoyed being the focus of "negative" drama, I'd be shocked if anyone raised his or her hand in all seriousness. The truth is, drama hurts. It hurts relationships. It hurts people. It hurts our faith lives. The only good I see coming out of drama is when people resolve to never again actively participate in drama because they have realized the emotional exhaustion and hurt that it brings about.

Some people can't even picture a life without some drama. I want to make the claim that we can live a life without actively participating in drama or being around it, and we can help others to put an end to drama as well. Here are several tips for living this out:

1. Say it as it is

Drama involves whispering and gossiping behind people's backs. Instead of simply confronting someone about an issue that is bothering or hurting them, people go and complain and rant to others, often pulling in and hurting other friendships that should have been left alone. Here is the solution: go and talk to the person who is hurting you. Call it as it is. Be polite, honest, and sincere. State what is hurting or annoying you, and if the person refuses to work on a solution, that person is not a true friend. I cannot emphasize that enough.

2. Discern and pray

Go read St. Francis De Sales Introduction to the Devout Life: Part III, Chapter 17. He words so simply the friendships that should last as well as the friendships that are frivolous and dangerous to our spiritual lives. Then ask the scary question: are my friends (individually and as a group) encouraging me to draw closer to God? Is he or she leading me to a life of virtue? Or is this person drawing my focus to worldly things, such as constant swearing, innuendo, drinking, or sexual activities? God made you to be a saint. And He will put the people in your life who will help you reach that goal. However, you are tasked with the responsibility of weeding out the worthwhile friends and those who distract you from your vocation.

3. Set boundaries

So many girls I have met love to pour out their souls to as many people as possible. They share intimate secrets too easily. They share their wounded pasts without hesitation. They entrust friends/romantic interests with their entire hearts and souls, and when the person does not live up to their expectations, they are crushed. Let's put an end to this. If you are a reading fanatic, I suggest reading The Seven Circles of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly and contemplating it. True friendships develop over time. Don't race into a friendship. If the person is meant to be in your life, he or she will still be there in several years.

We were made for more than drama. We were made for greater happiness than this. I challenge you to pick a saint or role model and ask the question: would this person do/say this? Personally, I love asking myself what Mary would do if she were in my place. Never once has this failed to keep me on the path to holiness. Never once have I regretted it. I encourage you to do the same!


Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

40950
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

25518
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

951031
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

133667
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments