To Those Who "Dated" a Player

In the 21st century, dating has definitely evolved into a whole new circus of events. I mean let's all be completely honest, everyone has their own opinion and definition of what dating really is. But in reality we can all pretty much agree that dating is nothing like it was when our grandparents and parents were growing up.

To Those of You Who "Dated" a Player:

Notice how I made sure to put dated in quotes, because to be completely honest with you, you did not date that person. You simply just went through the emotions of dating. They did not care about you, at least not 100%. At one point, their intentions may of been good, but at some point their intentions changed. You, my friend, were no longer who they really cared about. I know that may sound harsh, but that is pretty much what happened. I know everything happens for a reason, and that reason may be revealed to us right away, or we may not know for some time down the road.

But, if your breakup was recent or not, there are a few things you need to know. The first is, it is completely normal to feel as if you are a fool. I know you may feel like everyone else saw this coming but you, but you are no fool. You saw all the sides of that person that others did not. You were the one who planned your days around hanging out with them. You are the one who became attached and had hopes and dreams. You are human, but no fool. However, the one who messed up and threw away a great opportunity with a great person, they are the fool.

You have every right to want to know the answers to all your burning questions. We all have them after a breakup. They may change from day to day. You may think you want to know all the answers to your questions one minute, and the next minute you may never want to speak to that person again. That is normal. But before you ask your questions, ask yourself some questions of your own. Will you actually gain anything from that knowledge? Will they tell you just what you want to hear? Or if they are actually truthful with you, are you completely prepared to handle the truth?

Being played is hard, because it hurts our pride. We feel rejected. We feel alone. However, you are not either of those. They did not reject you as a person. They rejected a great chance with someone who cared about them a lot, for reasons they really only truly know. You are not alone, I promise this does not make you any less attractive or less of a person. You will begin to find things to do to fill the time you spent with that person. You will be successful without them.

Please, remember that if two people are supposed to be together: they will always find a way back together. However, some people are brought into our lives to teach us a lesson. If someone comes along who respects you, treats you right, and has genuine intentions: please let them in your heart and life. Do not allow someone else to control your life when they do not even care enough to text you to see if you are okay. That player no longer has a right to control you or what you do. Listen to your gut, but do not allow them to determine your happiness anymore. If that player is ultimately the "one", Jesus will bring them back to you when both of you are ready for each other.

You may of been ready for them, to change their life and bring out the best of them, however, they were not ready for YOU. Someone out there is, and quite frankly right now it is not them. Let them grow, and be wild for a while. If your hearts are ever right for each other, they will find each other. Love however is the greatest of all things, and it always has a way of working things out.

Let your heart love again: you deserve it.