Dating Is Not 'Dating' Anymore | The Odyssey Online
Start writing a post
Dating

Dating Is Not 'Dating' Anymore

What even is dating anyway?

2868
Dating Is Not 'Dating' Anymore

Dating is not dating anymore. Maybe I am old-fashioned, but in all honesty, we do not date anymore as a society.

We have all become so focused on how quick someone texts us back, how many times they like our photos and statuses, or if they favorite our tweets. You see we have become so focused on the "fake" and "public" actions of someone rather than the personal and sincere actions of the person. Do not get me wrong, the things above do matter, but in reality, if we focus on the true self of the person we are interested in, everything else will fall into place.

Now, I personally believe we need to go back to pursuing a person and their heart instead of chasing lust and desire. We no longer take the time to pursue anything. In our world, we have become so used to everything being given to us right away, and it, in turn, has affected our dating relationships.

In today's world, dating is more like "hanging out." We get caught up into the wordiness of "talking," flirting, dating, or being in a relationship. I mean, what even is "talking" in the first place? Is that getting to know someone as a friend and seeing if you like what you see and hear? I mean quite frankly, it puts both people in an odd position because you are in a limbo position. Are we just friends or more? Do they like me, or do I even like them?

Dating used to be something that was clear and had set standards. You actually took the time to pursue someone, but intentions were always made clear. People used to know what was expected of them from the start. Now, we have to decipher text messages and read into the "tone" of someone's voice, and use of emoji. When in all actuality if we all made our intentions clear and genuinely pursued someone, none of this would happen.

There is a difference between a chase and being pursued — a big difference. Chasing someone is simply flirting with them, leading them on without any intention of truly wanting them. Pursuing is genuinely making your intentions clear, and acting on those intentions. Taking the time to care for someone and their opinions and values.

We have begun to settle for the "I'm here" or the "I am outside" text message. Someone should take the time to come up to your door and introduce themselves. Dating is not some game to play. It is not the mind game of waiting for someone else to "text first" or call first. It is not the fact that someone has to text you back immediately or post you as their WCW or MCM. Think about it — if these are the things that we are beginning to base our level of connection with someone on, then what are we going to use to measure when we feel they are lying or when we want to get to know their hopes, dreams, and plans?

Let's start genuinely dating again. Fully and truly falling for someone else. Pursuing and no more chasing. Dating needs to become a real true thing, once again. Because quite honestly in today's world, we are going about it all wrong.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
an image of taylor swift standing center stage surrounded by her backup dancers in elegant peacock esque outfits with a backdrop of clouds and a box rising above the stage the image captures the vibrant aesthetics and energy of her performance during the lover era of her eras tour
StableDiffusion

A three-and-a-half-hour runtime. Nine Eras. Eleven outfit changes. Three surprise songs. Zero breaks. One unforgettable evening. In the past century, no other performer has put on an electric performance quite like Taylor Swift, surpassing her fans ‘wildest dreams’. It is the reason supporters keep coming back to her shows each year. Days later, I’m still in awe of the spectacle ‘Miss Americana’ puts on every few days in a new city. And, like one of Taylor’s exes, has me smiling as I reminisce about the memories of the night we spent together.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

Every Girl Needs To Listen To 'She Used To Be Mine' By Sara Bareilles

These powerful lyrics remind us how much good is inside each of us and that sometimes we are too blinded by our imperfections to see the other side of the coin, to see all of that good.

82651
Every Girl Needs To Listen To 'She Used To Be Mine' By Sara Bareilles

The song was sent to me late in the middle of the night. I was still awake enough to plug in my headphones and listen to it immediately. I always did this when my best friend sent me songs, never wasting a moment. She had sent a message with this one too, telling me it reminded her so much of both of us and what we have each been through in the past couple of months.

Keep Reading...Show less
Zodiac wheel with signs and symbols surrounding a central sun against a starry sky.

What's your sign? It's one of the first questions some of us are asked when approached by someone in a bar, at a party or even when having lunch with some of our friends. Astrology, for centuries, has been one of the largest phenomenons out there. There's a reason why many magazines and newspapers have a horoscope page, and there's also a reason why almost every bookstore or library has a section dedicated completely to astrology. Many of us could just be curious about why some of us act differently than others and whom we will get along with best, and others may just want to see if their sign does, in fact, match their personality.

Keep Reading...Show less
Entertainment

20 Song Lyrics To Put A Spring Into Your Instagram Captions

"On an island in the sun, We'll be playing and having fun"

9725
Person in front of neon musical instruments; glowing red and white lights.
Photo by Spencer Imbrock on Unsplash

Whenever I post a picture to Instagram, it takes me so long to come up with a caption. I want to be funny, clever, cute and direct all at the same time. It can be frustrating! So I just look for some online. I really like to find a song lyric that goes with my picture, I just feel like it gives the picture a certain vibe.

Here's a list of song lyrics that can go with any picture you want to post!

Keep Reading...Show less
Chalk drawing of scales weighing "good" and "bad" on a blackboard.
WP content

Being a good person does not depend on your religion or status in life, your race or skin color, political views or culture. It depends on how good you treat others.

We are all born to do something great. Whether that be to grow up and become a doctor and save the lives of thousands of people, run a marathon, win the Noble Peace Prize, or be the greatest mother or father for your own future children one day. Regardless, we are all born with a purpose. But in between birth and death lies a path that life paves for us; a path that we must fill with something that gives our lives meaning.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments