This one of those articles that you think about writing; however, it always goes on the back burner as it is a hard topic to discuss. I don't want to anger anyone with writing this, but all of what I am going to write is true. I am talking about emotional abuse and how it affects a person. Mine was not from a boyfriend or anyone of my family members. It came from the least likely person you would think; it was my freshmen year roommate. Don't get me wrong, she and I got along for the longest time! We basically did everything together our fall semester; however, it all changed when the first Friday of my winter semester happened.
My roommate did not talk to me for a good week when we got back and I finally said to her that we needed to talk about what is going on. She said we will talk about it the next day, and I was fine with that. However, I had no idea what the next day was going to hold.
The next day, I was ready to discuss what was bothering her and how we need to talk to each other if something is bugging us. It did not go that way at all. She came in, shut our door and locked it... (by the way, that is a trigger of mine and a lot of my friends know that.)
She said, "you were gossiping about me," and I was utterly lost about what she was talking about. I asked her to explain what she was talking about. She went on to say to me that one of her friends heard me talking to my friend about my roommate would go out on the weekends and party while getting drunk.
Don't get me wrong, I said she went to a lot of parties, but I was never said she was getting drunk (heck, I was asleep when she usually got home, so I had no idea what she was doing.) I mean, come on that is what the half the college students do. I listen to her and she said, "please do not discuss my life with your friends." I said okay. It did not stop there.
That night was one of the longest nights of college I have ever had. This is where I will start with this is what like to be emotionally abused.
1. It doesn't have to be a boyfriend or a family member, remember that!
Always remember that! Sometimes, they try to help you in this situation and are the best support system you can have.
2. They used every insecurity that you told them about and now they used it against you.
Mine was that I rock back and forth, no guy will ever like you, and she made fun of my eating habits
3. They try to make you look like the worst roommate.
After that night, I did not really discuss what happened and I never care to throw her name under the bus... I can't say she did the same for me
4. They make sly comments that they know others will notice; however, knowing that it will hit you too.
Trust me, they notice and they ask why you are being so mean to that person... It hurts so much and no one really will ever understand that pain.
5. But, it has everything to do with them and not you at all.
Which allows you to get better in the long run!
6. Ask for help because if you don't it will never get better and that is the sad truth!
They are so insecure that they take it out on people that actually do have confidence in themselves and they make those people so unsure of themselves. They don't realize the damage that they do to someone psyche and they don't at all feel bad for what they did. You get in such depression and don't think it will ever get better... however, I am proof that will and you just always have to look for the light on the other side of the tunnel. A good friend told me that once, thanks, Morgan!
This is what it's like to be emotionally abused and you will never understand it. You never want it to happen to you.
