So I have successfully been married for almost 5 months, but that's not what we are here to talk about today. This is for my girls who think they need a boy to fulfill their life.
This is for my girls who think they don't need to focus on themselves first. This is for my girls who think they have to get married at 22 to be an adult.
All of those things don't matter. No really, they don't. A man isn't going to make your life all of a sudden perfect. Focus on you, your degree, your gals.
Embrace yourself in things that make you happy and if a man comes along that actually wants to build you up and embrace all of those things too, then yeah marry the crap out of him.
But don't be so focused on "finding a man". I'm going to be 100% honest with you, if I didn't have a husband right now I'd be perfectly fine. I know what you're thinking, that's so easy for you to say. But it's true.
I would be doing me and focusing on finding a job in TV news just like I am doing right now with a husband. I got engaged after two years of dating a man who does nothing but encourages me to be my best all the time, but I was doing fine without him.
Do you want to know why I was doing good by myself? Because I wasn't worrying about every boy that looked my way.
I was hanging out with my girls and immersing myself in my degree and throwing everything I had into my sorority. God just so happened to drop this guy in my life. I didn't go out looking because I knew that eventually a guy would come along.
Basically I'm telling you that you don't have to be married with three kids by the time you're 23. I know you want to loved. I know you want to feel protected, but you can find those qualities in your friends.
Let your girl friends in and let them love you and let them build you up and you do the same for them. Know that you don't need a boyfriend, fiance, or husband to complete you. You need you. You are the most important person to yourself.
So do you. The perfect man will come along, give it time and enjoy your self. Enjoy your life.
