31 Things I Wished I Realized Before I Went To High School

31 Things I Wished I Realized Before I Went To High School

I was taught that it was such a terrible place, so I saw it as just that.

On screen, high school is portrayed as being both the best and worst times of your life. In "High School Musical," I remember being in love with the catchy songs and amazing dance routines that come with being a high schooler but hating the bullying and gossip queens I was so warned about in "Mean Girls." Because it was painted in such a conflicting light, going into high school, I didn't really know what to expect.

Am I supposed to be friends with everybody?

Was makeup mandatory?

What happens if I don't wear pink on Wednesdays?

I remember feeling so self conscious, scared about what others would think of me. Finding my friends and voicing my fears, I realized that I didn't share these feelings and thoughts alone. A lot of my friends were surprised about how high school really is despite what's shown on screen. Here are 31 things I learned that I wish I knew before opening those doors for the first time.

1. The acne on your face won't be the end of your reputation.

2. You'll still be able to see your friends.

3. No, pink on Wednesdays isn't mandatory.

4. Neither is the need for makeup.

5. Skipping class or missing school isn't the end of your life.

6. Bringing drinks, such as coffee, to school doesn't make you extra.

7. The boy you've been trying to impress will not matter in a couple of months.

8. No one will tease you for joining music.

9. Teachers barely get paid, yet they spend their days teaching the same subject over and over again just so you can become a little more ready to tackle the world. Appreciate them.

10. Life goes on.

11. Participating in school events doesn't make you weird.

12. Or a potential candidate for becoming the school mascot.

13. Dressing up to impress others is dumb, just wear sweatpants everyday.

14. Or something simple to put on, like a dress.

15. Be confident in whatever you do, and others will see you as that.

16. It's OK to get bad grades every once and a while, it doesn't mean you're stupid.

17. Similarly, it's okay to cry.

18. Doing drugs does not make you cool; don't feel the need to follow other's actions.

19. Neither does drinking.

20. Stop worrying that your friends will get tired of you. Love yourself.

21. You are your own biggest bully.

22. Talking to the kids that sit by themselves at lunch doesn't make you "one of them." It could actually make their day.

23. Go to the library. Read. Learn. Use your resources and educate yourself.

24. Stay up to date on current issues, and don't be scared to talk about them in class.

25. Being popular isn't something to strive for or feel bad for not being.

26. Love your textbooks and their free-ness; they're the key to your A.

27. No one will laugh at you if you're walking or sitting by yourself.

28. Upperclassmen are nice; they will help you find your way to your class if you're lost. Don't be scared to talk to them.

29. Go to football games; no one will care or notice that you don't like football. No one likes it either. Have fun.

30. Be spontaneous, optimistic and never let anyone drag you down. Stop overthinking.

31. You are beautiful.

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The Truth About Young Marriage

Different doesn't mean wrong.

When I was a kid, I had an exact picture in my mind of what my life was going to look like. I was definitely not the kind of girl who would get married young, before the age of 25, at least.

And let me tell you, I was just as judgmental as that sentence sounds.

I could not wrap my head around people making life-long commitments before they even had an established life. It’s not my fault that I thought this way, because the majority opinion about young marriage in today’s society is not a supportive one. Over the years, it has become the norm to put off marriage until you have an education and an established career. Basically, this means you put off marriage until you learn how to be an adult, instead of using marriage as a foundation to launch into adulthood.

When young couples get married, people will assume that you are having a baby, and they will say that you’re throwing your life away — it’s inevitable.

It’s safe to say that my perspective changed once I signed my marriage certificate at the age of 18. Although marriage is not always easy and getting married at such a young age definitely sets you up for some extra challenges, there is something to be said about entering into marriage and adulthood at the same time.

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Getting married young does not mean giving up your dreams. It means having someone dream your dreams with you. When you get lost along the way, and your dreams and goals seem out of reach, it’s having someone there to point you in the right direction and show you the way back. Despite what people are going to tell you, it definitely doesn’t mean that you are going to miss out on all the experiences life has to offer. It simply means that you get to share all of these great adventures with the person you love most in the world.

And trust me, there is nothing better than that. It doesn’t mean that you are already grown up, it means that you have someone to grow with.

You have someone to stick with you through anything from college classes and changing bodies to negative bank account balances.

You have someone to sit on your used furniture with and talk about what you want to do and who you want to be someday.

Then, when someday comes, you get to look back on all of that and realize what a blessing it is to watch someone grow. Even after just one year of marriage, I look back and I am incredibly proud of my husband. I’m proud of the person he has become, and I’m proud of what we have accomplished together. I can’t wait to see what the rest of our lives have in store for us.

“You can drive at 16, go to war at 18, drink at 21, and retire at 65. So who can say what age you have to be to find your one true love?" — One Tree Hill
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