It’s easy to get swept up into your own routine where the world around you seems to just be background noise. We’re all constantly busy with our own agendas that we forget about some key things that truly matter. Quite frankly, I think people are becoming extremely disconnected from each other, so here are some things that we could say more often to not only reconnect but to also be a bit more kind:

1. How are you?

This one is easy. Just ask people how they’re doing AND actually, stop to listen to what they say. Way too often I hear people, and even catch myself saying “Hi, how are you?” to someone and keep walking like a question wasn’t just asked. I know everyone’s busy with their own lives but you never know who may actually need to talk.

2. I’m sorry.

Too many good relationships are ruined over someone’s pride getting in the way. Take a step back and evaluate what really matters, apologize and move on. Now, of course, it’s a whole different issue if you’re the one constantly apologizing while the other person thinks they can do no wrong. In that case, reevaluate if you should have them in your life at all.

3. Excuse me.

Whether it’s trying to get through a crowded area, asking for help or simply disturbing someone who looks busy, being polite can make a bigger impact than aggression.

4. Thank you.

Do I even need to explain this one? Didn’t think so. Moving on.

5. Bless you.

The awkward silence after a sneeze is actually the worst. Gesundheit works too if you prefer, but just the acknowledgment is so much better than the silence.

6. I miss you

Life has a habit of getting in the way sometimes. So when something reminds you of someone or they just happen to cross your mind, reach out. Sure maybe it’s been awhile or the reason you stopped talking wasn’t the best but time heals all.

7. I love you.

Love isn’t implied. Sometimes we could all use the reminder that we matter to someone and that they will always be there when we need them to be.

8. I appreciate you.

We take for granted the people in our lives that have been there for as long as we can remember. This includes our parents, longtime friends, siblings, etc. These are people that often are in our lives unconditionally but we fail to acknowledge that they could easily not be. I think it’s important to remind them of how much they mean to us from time to time.

The world is full of anger and hostility. You may not think so, but what you project into the world matters. So I encourage everyone reading this to be a little nicer and more conscious of what types of behaviors you’re putting out there. It could make all the difference.