To My Dad Who Taught Me How To Be Independent

To My Dad Who Taught Me How To Be Independent

You always taught me that there are three kinds of people in the world: sheep, sheepdogs, and wolves.

Growing up, you inspired me to take every chance possible to travel across the states, Europe, and Mexico. I was taught how to be a lady and a decent person. Although, there are a few things I will never forget that you taught me that impact me daily.

1. You taught me how to defend myself.

Colleges of today do not allow students to carry guns, or knives, not even pepper spray around campus for defense. Ignoring the fact that there are classes going on past 9 pm at night, leaving girls and guys, walking to cars alone in the dark. This is why I am thankful for you teaching me how to defend myself. I constantly have these things going through my head:

1. Do to not be on my phone when walking, if I am attentive then I am less of a target.

2. If someone jumps me, my elbows can cut easily.

I remember watching shows on television showing me how to flip someone and defend myself. Things I will never forget.

2. Stand up for others.

You always taught me that there are three kinds of people in the world: sheep, sheepdogs, and wolves. That is how I live my life, constantly thriving to be a sheep dog, to help people when it is needed.

3. I know how to handle guns.

Growing up in the south, guns are not an uncommon topic. You used to turn on shows with men and women training at ranges, they would discuss different types of guns, and how to handle them. While we watched this, we would eat garlic noodles, then take apart pistols to clean. Although I would always make you paranoid that I was doing it wrong. But it taught me to be confident with them, and that it is just a machine, a tool. We would go to gun shows so you could educate me on the benefits of different types of guns. How AR’s have different length uppers, and how we could build one together if we wanted. How there are some pistols more compact than others for concealed carry, and how it takes major responsibility to use one. Also, even though I was too young to have a gun at the time, I would always look forward to the marble man. Therefore, I still have a collection of marbles from every trip we made.

4. Teaching me how to drive

Growing up with a dad who is a mechanic, loved racing motorcycles, and is a car enthusiast, it was expected I would pick up a few things. I remember going to motorcycle shows and staring at Suzuki Hayabusa's and Kawasaki ninjas. You told me once to watch out for the engine and exhaust because I’ll get burned, well, as a kid my leg touched it. I have the mark still. So I will forever remember not listening.

When I turned 15 I got my permit, and I remember driving your Toyota Tundra in an empty parking lot with you freaking out every second because you are so particular. Because of that, I learned how to feel the vehicle I drive. I remember you telling me to always look out for people on motorcycles, and I always keep an eye out. I even specifically ride behind them so nobody else will make a mistake and hit them.

5. Basic car maintenance

Being in college means I will not always have you there to help me when my car has issues. You taught me how to check my oil, my antifreeze, tire pressure, and even how to change a tire. May I say, I have had rotten luck with all of these things in the last three years, but they are basic things I am so happy to have had you to teach me.

I think when soon-to-be fathers hear they are going to have a daughter, their minds imagine treating them like a princess, dressing them in pink tutus, and singing Disney songs. Although there are things every female needs to know, whether they may be more attributed to guys learning than girls, every girl needs a dad who will teach them how to be independent. Of which, I am proud to say mine did.

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17 Empowering Bible Verses For Women

You go, girl.

We all have those days where we let the negative thoughts that we're "not good enough," "not pretty enough" or "not smart enough" invade our minds. It's easy to lose hope in these situations and to feel like it would be easier to just give up. However, the Bible reminds us that these things that we tell ourselves are not true and it gives us the affirmations that we need. Let these verses give you the power and motivation that you're lacking.

1. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future."

2. Psalm 46:5

"God is within her, she will not fall."

3. Luke 1:45

"Blessed is she who believed that the Lord would fulfill His promises to her."

4. Proverbs 31:17

"She is energetic and strong, a hard worker."

5. Psalm 28:7

"The Lord is my strength and my shield."

6. Proverbs 11:16

"A gracious woman gains respect, but ruthless men gain only wealth."

7. Joshua 1:9

"Be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go."

8. Proverbs 31:30

"Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised."

9. 1 Corinthians 15:10

"By the grace of God, I am what I am."

10. Proverbs 31:26

"When she speaks, her words are wise, and she gives instructions with kindness."

11. Psalm 139:14

"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made."

12. 1 Peter 3:3-4

"Don't be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God."

13. Colossians 2:10

"And in Christ you have been brought to fullness."

14. 2 Timothy 1:7

"For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline."

15. Jeremiah 29:11

"'For I know the plans I have for you,' says the Lord. 'They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.'"

16. Exodus 14:14

"The Lord himself will fight for you. Just stay calm."

17. Song of Songs 4:7

"You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way."

Next time you're feeling discouraged or weak, come back to these verses and use them to give you the strength and power that you need to conquer your battles.

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The Thank-You Your Parents Deserve For The Sacrifices They've Made

Sadly, this is one they've never heard.


We're getting into that stage of our lives. The one where you are away from home or starting to distance yourself, but the relationship between you and your parents is strengthening. College has taught me the value of my parents. Their value is more than the money their bank account and how often they were able to make it to high school soccer games. It's so much deeper than that.

If you have EVER fought with your parents, you've heard the phrase "You'll understand someday when you're a parent." What an excuse, right? No, not really. Being a parent is hard; it's something that I couldn't even imagine doing now or in the next five years.

Since college, I've grown so much closer to both my parents and honestly it's one of the best things that has happened to me. In high school, I was the definition of a hormonal teenager. Fighting with my dad every day and ignoring my mom when the walk got hard. Now, I call them to tell them what kind of smoothie I got for lunch. College taught me how to make not just more of a father/mother-son relationship, but a friendship with my parents. That's not what I'm here to thank them for, though.

I'm thankful for the sacrifices. There's so many that I don't know about, but I know they exist. Working countless hours to give my brother and me what we want or even sacrificing their own happiness for me is something that I can't comprehend yet. I know that being a parent is hard and that sacrifices are in call but being a parent is a full-time job. I've come to realize that a lot of my parent's lives got put on the backburner because they wanted to give me the best life possible, but I have to recognize the sacrifices.

I have been so blessed to have an amazing life. I've been provided for, and my parents have busted their butts to make sure I had everything possible to make me happy. Not just material things; they gave me all of the opportunities possible to succeed in life. They've skipped events with their friends to spend time with me while I'm home from college, even if it's us sitting in the living room on our phones all night.

Mom and Dad, I appreciate you more than you know. The words that I've written are just a quarter of the love and appreciation I have for you — words cannot describe how I feel. Thank you for all of the sacrifices you've made for me. I know I am where I'm at right now because of the hard work you've put into me, and I hope that I can make you proud.


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