At the age of almost 20, the idea of falling in love and getting married is a normal thought. I would be lying if I said I didn't. I would be head over heels to be passionately in love with a man doing life together, but I am a single pringle. Honestly, that's okay too.

My spring semester of freshman year, I read a book called "The Chase" by Kelsey and Kyle Kupeckly. If you are between the ages of 15 and 25, I suggest picking up a copy. The book tells the story of how Kelsey and Kyle focused on God's plan in their relationships, which ultimately ended in their love story. It is an encouragement for girls who are struggling with grasping why they haven't found their happily ever after, which was something I was torn up about for a long time.

I have always struggled with not being good enough in all aspects of my life. I was never the prettiest, smartest, skinniest or funniest girl around. I always felt second to my twin sister who I thought was perfect. I soon learned no one is perfect no matter how much they seem. Through many nights of prayer and guidance, the Lord has shown me a lot about being enough.

When it comes to being enough, we must remember Christ is more than enough. If we aren't trusting Him in the area of our lives, we are never going to follow His plan completely. We need to be running after Christ, not seeking relationships in wrong timing. Kelsey says it perfectly, "Better advice is to wait and chase God. While you’re waiting for the love of your life, pursue God." The time of waiting is a time of growing. Growing in Christ is important because it begins to prepare our hearts for our relationships with others. Our relationships should be glorifying Christ, and if we aren't growing in our waiting period they won't.

I have experienced this firsthand. Summer after my senior year, I was hanging out with a guy who wasn't a follower of Christ. I didn't want to wait for someone any longer because I wanted to have fun. It was one of the biggest mistakes because it only left me heartbroken. He wasn't good for my self-esteem and wasn't helping me grow in my relationship with Christ. It really only hurt my relationship with Christ. I wasn't waiting, and if I learned anything from that, it was the importance of being with a believer. Marriage is about doing full time ministry with your partner. If you both don't have the same basic beliefs, your relationship will fail. Girls, wait for that bold guy who is seeking Jesus to pursue a relationship with you. It will be worth the wait. I promise.

I have been chasing after God since then, and it is really helping understand why I am waiting. I know soon one day my person will come and it will be perfect timing. As for now, I will be waiting.