It has been a misconception since the beginning and apparently an extremely awkward topic to bring up once you've hit college. Who says there's so much wrong with not being sexually active. It's a choice that can been as healthy and respectable lifestyle just as people who have sex do. Many people believe to hit maturity, "innocence" must be shed to obtain such a goal. However, this is not even the case because formulated norms have always shifted from what is moral in society. Today being a virgin in college or after is either strange or rare.
Let me tell you that no matter your age, gender, or sexual preferences being a virgin or not doesn't make you any less of a person. It's important to accept everything about yourself and have confidence in your decisions, beliefs, and morals. Here are some reasons why being a virgin is nothing to get weird about:
1. Patience is a Virtue
People come and go, this isn't necessarily a bad thing. But you have the ability to make genuine relationships with others and you know when you like a person. You take the time to put effort with people and that is a great quality because you aren't dubious. Men or women, you show true trust.
2. Desirable
Whether it's the guy you are seeing or the girl that you've been dating for some time, they should respect your choice and find this fact even more attractive. It shows that you are worth the work and you take yourself and others seriously.
3. Healthy Decisions
Not having to freak out about forgetting to take your birth control or worrying about condom breakage. You are stress free when it comes to your genital well being. No diseases or accidental pregnancies. Even your mentality is off the charts, you know where your priorities lie and not getting sucked in to ugly relationships with bad people.
4. Close Relationships
Telling the truth about being a virgin to the people you like makes it easier to hold positive and earnest conversations. You aren't holding anything back and letting them understand who you are is totally okay.
5. Reality
There are some people that may carry different view points on why they have never had sex, whether it's religious, idealistic, or just personal reasons. It's important to respect everyone's opinion and choice. Put yourself in another's shoes and understand.
Remember having sex doesn't define you but rather it describes the traits that are apart of you. Not a lot of people are proud to admit that they are virgins, however I hope that the qualities above help to accept yourself a bit more. Carry them with confidence and you are sure to have some of the greatest people that will support you in every way.
