We have all heard from at least one of our friends or family members about their long distance relationship and how they are missing their boyfriend/girlfriend, counting down the days until they see each other again, and how long it has been since they saw them last. After they tell us all these things we think we understand, we try to comprehend how difficult it would be but we could never truly make sense of it until we are in a long distance relationship ourselves. The idea of being in one just seems stressful and it's completely normal that we think that way, social media fills our minds with negative things about being in that kind of relationship and how they never work. In reality, being in a real long distance relationship is not as frustrating as you have all been told.
First of all, relationships are all about trust, right? We meet someone, fall in love with them and we hand everything that we could ever have to them because we are confident that they would never hurt us. In some long distance relationships that trust is not present, so it doesn't work out — plain and simple. If you are in a relationship with some major cross country distance and you both are faithful to one another, it works out.
Sometimes the distance benefits the both of you in the career/college aspect of it. You stay in your state and work on the things you want to finish before starting your life with that person and they have things to work on in their state before reuniting with you. The both of you are maintaining the relationship you have while getting what you need to get done, it just works out. Plus, you both support each other on what you're doing and staying busy helps make the time go by faster.
Though those are all the good things about being in a long distance relationship, there are the not-so-good things about it. Those being the fact that you can't see them every day, having to wait until the next time you see him/her, and the sheer act of missing their presence. You have to be an emotionally strong person to be in this kind of relationship, if it is too much to handle then it won't work out. There is absolutely nothing wrong with not being able to handle it, everyone is different and has their own ideal way to be in a relationship, it just depends on the person. Sometimes even the people who are emotionally sensitive to Nicholas Sparks books/movies tough out their relationship because they know that this is no ordinary person, this person is more than worth the wait.
At times it gets extremely difficult — like if a song that you both jam out to comes on the radio, instant tears and emotions. Other times it is okay because your boyfriend/girlfriend will talk to you for hours on the phone and it instantly makes your day better. With today's technology advances like Skype and FaceTime, it makes it so easy to talk/see them. Being in a long distance relationship is never how it seems until you are actually in one, but it could also potentially be the best thing that has ever happened to you. If it is easy, worry free, and fun to be dating a person while in a long distance relationship, then it is going to work out, you just have to let time do its thing and be patient until you see them again.
