To The Man Who Has Always Stood By Me, Thanks For Letting Me Rant At 11 P.M.

To The Man Who Has Always Stood By Me, Thanks For Letting Me Rant At 11 P.M.

I couldn't be more thankful to call you my boyfriend.

To my loving boyfriend,

Every guy who has gone out with me was either too clingy or they were players. You're the only guy who has ever really cared. Thank you for being so kind-hearted, and thank you for being there when I needed you.

Thank you for being the guy who always liked me for me.

It was just a few hours of hanging out and having fun before it got real, and I started to have feelings. I started to think, "No... no... no." He's with someone, and I'm screwed.

I don't know how I did it because I was trying not to hard not to fall. But it was you who started to make me feel good inside because you didn't judge me. Thank you.

Now, you're mine.

Thank you for being the one who called in sick just to let me talk to you all day. Thank you for always being nice. Thank you for everything you have done to make this relationship work.

Thank you for always being patient with me whenever I was worried about something or when it needed to be done.

Thank you for being the one to put the pieces back together.

Thank you for not breaking my heart into pieces. You deserve an award for all of the sh*t I put you through.

Thank you for all of the heart to heart conversations.

You're the only one who can make me laugh about stupid things and make me laugh until my stomach hurts. Thank you for making me happy when I was upset, mad, sad or just needed cheering up.

You're the only person who ever made me so happy.

Thank you for letting me rant to you at 11 pm and talking to you until you fall asleep. This might be weird, but I love listening to you snore because I know you're not cheating. I know you're sleeping alone and being faithful.

Thank you for being the only man who ever crossed my path and really loved me.

Thank you for helping me find the true meaning of love and for always believing in me when no one did. Thank you for accepting the fact that I'm still learning to put my pieces back together and loving someone again.

Thank you for showing me the true meaning of love when it was really me who needed a reality check of what true love was.

That's how I know I love you.

Thank you for being the best boyfriend I could ever have. You're a lot better than the others, and I don't know how to thank you enough for getting me out of that. Thank you for not ever hurting my heart and tearing it into thousands of pieces.

Now that I thanked you, I think I should apologize for some things.

I'm sorry I doubt you, but it's only because I've been hurt before. I don't know if it's me, but I can see you being my best friend, even though I doubt so much because I have been hurt so much.

I have always been taken for granted. I deserve to be your wife one day. Note: I'm going to be a bomb ass wife. Honestly, You're doing everything a man should be doing.

Thank you for a lot of things that I'm probably missing but just have no words for. Thank you for being the love of my life by just standing in front of me and letting life take its course.

Thank you for being committed, being such a wonderful man to me, not telling me what to do and helping me towards my dream goal. That's to move back home to South Carolina, marry the hell out of you, grow old and have your children.

I love you so much, and I don't know how I would be able to repay you for what you're doing. Thank you for all you do. I love you now, and I'll love you until I die.


Your girlfriend.

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To The 20-Year-Old Girl Dating A 45-Year-Old Man, From The Child Of An Age Gap Relationship

Please know what your getting into.

Recently, I've seen a few stories on the Odyssey discussing age gap in relationships.

They all seem to be written by girls who are dating men who are 20 years or more their senior. The articles talk about how love is love, the heart wants what it wants and that no one will change their mind about their relationship. I respect everyone's right to their opinion and their happiness. If you really think it works for you, then go for it. However, you should know what you are getting into completely before fully committing to this.

I am a child of parents with a large age gap. My dad is 23 years older than my mom. They got married when he was 50 and she was 26. My dad was 65 by the time I was born. I love my parents but here's why I think we should be wary of large age gap relationships

Disclaimer: my parents both know and understand my feelings on this. They know I wrote this article and that they are mentioned. I wouldn't trade or change them or their relationship. My parents have provided me with a wonderful life full of love, family, and happiness. Because of them, I've been given financial stability, a safe environment, an education and a huge, loving family. Things have worked out for our family, especially given the circumstances. However, that doesn't mean I would recommend a large age gap relationship. It may seem like nothing now, but the years between you and your significant other will catch up to you.

My dad is now 86 and struggling. He has trouble taking care of himself.

He needs help with almost everything. He can't be left alone for more than an hour or two. He has nurses come three times a week to help with his care. He needs someone present when my mom leaves the house to work part-time. His memory is fading, his health is declining and it seems that he slips out of lucidity more often these days.

My mom is now a full-time caregiver more than a wife.

She does an amazing job making sure my dad is content and taken care of. However, it is draining. She is still young enough to want to go out and do things. She wants to go on vacations and hang out friends. But most of the time, she is at home watching my dad. She is following her wedding vows to a tee but that doesn't mean it is easy. She struggles with guilt sometimes over the entire situation.

Then there is me. Because of my parents' age gap, I have been put in a difficult place.

I've had to watch my dad slip away physically and mentally for a good portion of my life. I try to help out but it is not always an easy thing to do. I will go watch TV with him so my mom can get out for an hour. Unfortunately, I usually end up calling her home because something arises that I can't handle alone. I have gone over to their house many times to help pick my dad up because he fell and refuses to let someone call the EMTs. I have changed college and life plans in order to stay close to home. I have known since I was little that my dad most likely won't be there for my wedding. He won't meet my children. I have struggled with my relationship with him due to the immense age gap. It is all I have ever known but it is something that still greatly affects me. I love my dad with everything I have, but that doesn't make the situation easier.

So my warning to you is this; be prepared for what is down the road.

Know that your age difference of 18 and 40 doesn't seem like anything now but it will at 60 and 82. It will be difficult for everyone involved. As a wife, you will slowly watch the man you loved slip away. Your kids will have to deal with struggles that no one else will understand. It is a lonely and painful situation. Before you make any drastic decisions, please understand what is coming.

If you decide that is what's right for you, then, by all means, go for it! but just understand the consequences of your choices.

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My Experience With Heartbreak Made Me Become A Stronger Person In The End

The tale of a heartbroken man

Finding someone to be there for you, hug you when times get rough, kiss you goodnight, and just be that special someone who will always have your back is hard as it is, but losing them is even harder. I would know since I had this experience around a year ago. This person was very special to me and I feel that it is appropriate to tell my story and how I have become a better person since the breakup.

We all remember our first love! That person you lay eyes on and you feel an instant connection with. That is what I felt with my ex. The story starts back when I was a Freshman at my first college before I transferred to Marquette. (I will not be saying the name of the college or the name of the person just out of respect).

I knew about this person, heard through friends that he was single, and I thought he was cute. One night I was on Instagram and he started to like my photos. I did the same thing back, and before you know it we started texting. The next thing you know, we went on a couple of dates and made it official.

I feel hard and fast. I mean, it was my first love! The chemistry was there, and it just felt natural to me. I felt that this person was meant to be in my life. I finally felt that the plants had aligned and that everything was right in my life. Turns out that was not the case.

Second semester came around and before you know it things took a turn for the worse. I felt that the connection we once had was starting to drift away. He was involved in track and field so during this time of the year it would get busy for him. I knew that going into this, and I made sure that I attended as many meets as I could to make sure he knew I was there to support him. Sadly, it was not enough.

Track season picked up, and our relationship did not. Every day I felt as if I was holding on by a thread, and that I was walking on eggshells. I did everything I could to prevent the end, but it did not work.

The relationship ended the day after Spring Break. He came over to my dorm and I could see the look in his eyes and I knew something was up. Once he sat me down and gave me the whole, “It’s not you, it’s me speech,” I knew it was over. He felt horrible, but he said he wanted to be single.

Once he said that I felt that I was a burden to him and that this relationship should have never happened. I was heartbroken and devastated and didn’t know where to turn.

Fast forward to the summer of 2016. I had already applied to transfer to Marquette, had my classes picked out and was ready to roll. The people around me thought that I had picked up the pieces and had my life put back together. Sadly, on the inside, it was not the same story.

At this point, I deleted all my social media because I did not want to see any photos of him, and I also wanted to take some time off to do some inner reflection as well. Some days were easy, some were hard. It was a vicious cycle of, what did I do wrong? Could I have saved it? Turns out the answer is no.

Even though I left my former college with a broken heart and nowhere to turn, it made me really take a deeper look inward. Since that relationship, I feel that I have become a stronger person and have been able to help others that have gone through the same situation.

To the ex that broke my heart, if you would ever read this, I want to thank you. First, I want to thank you for all the fun times that we had together and all the great memories we made. Secondly, I want to say even though I was mad at the time I understand what you did.

You were not ready for serious relationship, and I was. I might have gone in too fast, which I understand now, but you made me learn so much more about myself and to me, that is the best thing someone can do.

So, my final words on this matter will go as such: To my past, I thank you for teaching me and making me look inward, for my future, I welcome you with open arms and accept whatever will come my way.

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