The Key to Finding Your Other Half
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The Key to Finding Your Other Half

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The Key to Finding Your Other Half


You will never find your other half because you are not half of a person. You are a whole, breathing, and living human being. You have a past, a present, and a future. To say that you will or want to find your "other half" ensues that you have never reached your full capabilities because you are missing a vital part to make you whole.

The real problem in saying that you want or need to find your "other half" is that you are shortchanging yourself. You are essentially saying that in order for you to feel complete as whole person, you need someone else. The other downside to that equation is that, you don't want someone that is a whole person either. You want someone who is a half and you're their missing part. The complication with being with a person who is half of themselves is that both of your purposes are sowed into each other. Your dreams and aspirations are made possible by the presence of the other person.

Some of you may be rolling your eyes and saying, "the term 'other half' is just a saying and I don't believe that I am half of a whole person." While the term may just be a saying, I believe that words have power. What we speak manifests itself into our reality. Do you think the most successful people doubt themselves and speak negativity into their life? Of course not! There is power in your words. Speak about yourself as a whole, and you will start to notice that the feeling of wanting someone to complete you and make you a better version of yourself goes away.


The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. A wonderful woman once told me to write down all the qualities I wanted in a partner. My list was specific and considerably long. After my list was completed, she told me to turn the paper around and write a list of the qualities my ideal partner would want in their ideal partner. That was an eye opener for me. In order for me to attract my ideal partner, I need to be the very thing they would need in return.

Relationships of any sort require a constant equilibrium of participation from all parties involved. If you want a partner who is culturally aware, you must also be culturally aware. You attract what you are. Be the best you possible first and someone equally great will cross paths with you.


At the most basic level, tea is produced with a tea bag and hot water. Both are matter, but different forms of it. They come from separate places and were made in different way. Yet, they blend harmoniously without one over powering the other.

Relationships should be like tea. (Yes, I made that analogy.) You and your partner should be able to be individuals with a clear sense of who you both are. But, you both should be able to produce something meaningful together. The most successful relationships are usually between two people who are secure in who they are and are willing to bring their all to that relationship to build something better (i.e. Barack and Michelle Obama).

I believe that a relationship should be more than a self-service. It should have a greater purpose in the grand scheme of things than just preventing loneliness. I'm not saying that joy and peace shouldn't be the first priority in the relationship. I'm only saying that a relationship that can build something greater than the individuals in it, will be much more fulfilling than one that can't (or doesn't).

The person you've been looking for has always been inside of you. Get to know that person first. Love that person. Strengthen that person. Without even realizing it, another person will cross your path, who will admire you as a whole entity. Not a half.

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