Many people are under the false impression that it is impossible and unlikely to have a boyfriend in college, especially one who attends the same university. However, I know that is not true. College is a hectic time, and people are busy juggling academics, extracurriculars, and attempting to have a social life. Additionally, many college students feel that they would rather just “hookup” at a party or “have fun” and not be committed. I have learned monogamy and the sensation of being in love at a young age.

I met my boyfriend during our college orientation, and although our story is not a Romeo and Juliet romance, it is unique. We talked and were able to get to know one another, and we eventually socialized with a group, and then went on dates just the two of us. After some time, we became “official.” I knew that he was something special and had high hopes that our relationship would be successful. I happened to be right. I am not telling you this to narrate a sappy love story, but rather, I am expressing that being in a relationship in college can absolutely be a reality. I am not the type of girl who loves to party with a bunch of strangers. I would rather be in the intimate company of several close friends, including my boyfriend. A lot of girls that I know do not see a future with one specific boy and are looking to mess around and be participants in the hookup culture. They are not open to being with one guy and one guy only. But being willing to commit and dedicate oneself are major components of being in a steady relationship.

Furthermore, many girls are not into meeting a guy at their school because they do not want the guy to be able to see them at all times due to essentially living under the same roof. Some girls can’t stand the idea of a partner having the convenience of seeing them in any state. Whether it is when they first wake up in the morning or are makeup-less, many women want to keep certain images of themselves private. People must understand that if they are in a serious relationship, their significant other will see them in various states of being. Attending the same school as your guy will not destroy the relationship. If you fear spending too much time with him since you will basically be living together at college, then you have the power to limit the amount of time you’re with him.

I have lived the experience of having a boyfriend in college, and I love being around him, but I make sure that I take time for myself too. Personal space is important, and you must always take care of yourself when in a relationship. I enjoy partaking in activities with my special someone, but I also love to be independent, too. Having a balance of the two is so important.

Whether you are afraid of pursuing a guy that you may like, or are hesitant to test out a relationship in college, then I strongly encourage you to at least attempt to do so! If it’s meant to be, then it will work out, and if not, then it’s a wonderful learning experience. I have been with my boyfriend for 14 months, and we are a prime example of successful dating in the college world.