Kissing is one of the fun parts of having feelings for someone. Sharing a romantic moment where your lips meet and you can feel your hearts colliding... okay that is way too sappy and sounds like it should be in a Nicholas Sparks book, but kissing can be a really special moment between two people if you make it that way. To anyone who plans on going in for a first kiss or who wants to up his or her kissing game, here is a checklist full of things to remember before making a move.
1. Check your breath
This should go without saying. Make sure you brush your teeth and don't eat smelly foods right before without supplementing with a piece of gum or mints.
2. Get rid of any gum or mints
If you need to freshen your breath but you are unable to brush your teeth, gum and mints are lifesavers. Just make sure you get rid of them long before you end up in a romantic situation. Otherwise, the perfect moment can turn into a disaster, fast.
3. Pamper your lips
This goes for both genders. I have heard many guys claim they do not use chapstick or an exfoliant because they think it is unmanly. Coming from a female, I promise you the manliest (and most attractive) thing you can do is take care of yourself so that your partner's experience is as enjoyable as yours. No one likes chapped lips.
4. Be mindful of your hands
There is a sweet spot. Don't completely feel your partner up (unless that is what you both want) and don't just stand there. Act a little interested without taking things to another level that your partner may not be ready for. I suggest running your hands through your partner's hair or grabbing his or her waste.
5. Timing
Timing is everything, and there is no cheat code for this. You have to learn your partner. A good rule of thumb would be to start off soft and slow. You can gradually speed up if the kissing turns into making out. My advice? End with a soft, long kiss. It will make her feel special and like you did not want it to end. You could even whisper something sweet to her afterward for bonus points.
6. Location, location, location
You know the drill. The Thanksgiving dinner table–maybe not the best time. On the couch as you are meeting your partner's parents for the first time–maybe not the best time. Find a private romantic area like a park where not many people go or your own room. And please, stop making out in the back of movie theaters. It's not romantic and I didn't spend 20 bucks on a movie to listen to you two play tonsil hockey all the way through it. Respect the people around you and choose an appropriate venue.
7. Know your partner
Take the time to really understand your partner's likes and dislikes. Don't stick your tongue down his or her throat until you know that is something he or she doesn't hate.
8. Plan your kiss based on your partner's height
What is your partner's height in comparison to yours? Do you have to reach up or lean down? Have a game plan so that when the moment arrives, you're not awkward about it. If your partner is wearing heels, you may have to rethink your plan. Whatever you do, don't bump noses. You will laugh about it one day but not without getting some seriously red cheeks first, not to mention a red nose, too.
9. Be mindful of your teeth
I'm not talking about biting. That's a personal preference, but I suggest biting softly since the lips have very sensitive skin. When you're kissing, make sure you push your lips far out so that your partner does not feel your teeth pressing against his or her lips. This goes for your nose, glasses or any other thing on your face that could potentially be poking your partner or making him or her feel uncomfortable.
10. Do it with the right person
Kissing is a lot of fun, but it's really special when it's with the right person. Go find someone you really love and give them a big smooch.
