You're a failure. You're ugly. You're fat. No one will ever love you. You're going to die alone. You'll never get that job. You're just not good enough. You can't do that. Why do you even try? You don't deserve that. You can't pull that off. You're going nowhere. Everyone is better than you.

Read those words. Read them again but pay attention to whose voice is speaking them. It's not a coincidence that those words were read in your mind by your voice. It's because at one point or another, we've said these words and more to ourselves. Why is it not okay for us to say those words to others, but it's okay to say them to ourselves?

It's because when we say those things to others, we see an immediate reaction. We might see sadness, anger, or hurt. But when we say them to ourselves, we don't always see an immediate effect. But that doesn't mean that they don't leave one. Over time, these words will turn into mantras that control you until you don't recognize yourself anymore.

Now do me a favor. Stop.

Stop saying things to yourself that you wouldn't say to others. Respect yourself enough to change. Put these words to rest. Once you start speaking to yourself as you speak to your best friend or significant other, you'll see a change. Not only in how you see others, but how you see yourself. Your mind will release positive thoughts, and not exclusively based on the person. You will condition yourself back into love. Your mind should not be a weapon, but a tool. A tool that will help you on the road to self-love and discovery. A tool that will inspire and teach those you love to see themselves the way you see them.

So for your sake and for those you love, speak with kindness and with the purest of heart. That will make all the difference.