The 37 Commandments Of Girl Code

The 37 Commandments Of Girl Code

A guide to being the best girl you can be.

Girl code--it's a secret honor code system that bonds all females. The code is unwritten, unspoken, and unbreakable. Here are 37 of the most sacred Commandments of the code to live by.

1. Thou shall not date a friend's ex.

2. Thou shall not let a friend go to the bathroom alone.

3. Thou shall not ditch a friend when going out together--especially if it's just the two of you.

4. Thou shall not ditch a drunk friend, regardless of how annoying they are.

5. Thou shall give a tampon to any girl in need.

6. Thou shall be honest when a friend asks "how's my outfit?"

7. But be nice if it doesn't flatter her, and then help her pick another one.

8. Thou shall be nice to your friend's boyfriend, even if you don't like him.

9. Unless he is disrespectful and abusive towards her, you will not interfere with their relationship.

10. That means no bad-mouthing or secretly scheming to break them up.

11. That being said, if they do break up, thou shall promptly arrive at her door with a tub of ice cream, sad movies, and tissues and cancel all your other plans for that week.

12. Thou shall always provide a shoulder to cry on.

13. Thou shall remain loyal to the phrase "Sisters before Misters."

14. Thou shall share food, not boys.

15. Even if the boy is the one making the food.

16. If you and your friend both like the same guy, neither of you will pursue him.

17. Even if he's really cute and asks you out.

18. Thou shall provide a sympathetic listening ear when your friend complains about her boy drama.

19. And forget about it and not get mad when she forgives him the next day.

20. Thou shall give dirty looks to your friends ex.

21. And dislike everyone she hates.

22. Thou shall not date or hook up with your friend's best guy friend.

23. Unless you ask her first and she gives you her blessing.

24. Thou shall call your friend faking an emergency if she needs to escape a bad date.

25. Thou shall take your friends secrets to the grave.

26. Thou shall never tell your friend to "chill out," "calm down," or "relaaaaaaax" when she is pissed off.

27. Even if she's being dramatic, let her vent it out.

28. Thou shall stand up for your friend both in front of her and behind her back.

29. Thou shall tell your friend when she has food in her teeth.

30. Thou shall be honest with your friend and talk out your issues when you fight, rather than being passive-aggressive towards them.

31. Thou shall tap your friend out when she drinks a little too much.

32. Thou shall save your friend when she is being hit on by creeps.

33. Thou shall not let your friend send that 2 a.m. drunk text.

34. Thou shall always help boost your friend's confidence.

35. Thou shall respect and learn from other women's successes, rather than belittle them or tear them down.

36. Thou shall like all your friend's posts, pictures, and most importantly, selfies.

37. Thou shall adhere to the girl code religiously and be the best BFF possible.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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