8 Ways To Get Your Best Friend Through Her Worst Breakup

8 Ways To Get Your Best Friend Through Her Worst Breakup

It probably wont work but at least you tried.
452
views

When your best friend and her boyfriend break up, it's inevitable that you're going to hear all about it. You'll hear exactly what was said and it'll be all she talks about until she is finally over him. Sometimes it can take months. She'll constantly ask you things like "OMG, did you see his story" or "will this make him jealous."

It's basically never ending, so I'm here to try (key word, try) to help you get your best friend over her boyfriend in this ten step process.

1. Be supportive and listen to her cry for a little at least

Help her get all the screaming and crying out. Let her be a psycho and maybe even role play, and you be the asshole ex-boyfriend for her to yell at.

2. Help her delete all photos of him off her phone, then burn the ones she has printed out

3. Force her to cut off all contact

It is imperative that she does not see his stories anymore or have to look at his Instagram pictures with the random girls he meets at the bar. Unfollow him for her, and just block his number while you're at it.

4. Explain to her that she is way too hot for him and force her to go out in a revealing top and tight skirt

If she looks good, she'll feel better.

5. Take shots and more shots

Tequilla is highly recommended.

6. Remind her of all the bad things he's done

Remind her of the time he picked his nose while they were out to dinner, or the time he told her he hated puppies.

7. Sign her up for Tinder

She'll receive anonymous compliments from semi-cute boys.

8. Eat lots and lots of cookies, brownies, ice cream, and more junk food

In the end, this is all she needs, junk food and your love :)

Cover Image Credit: Marlye Jerva

Popular Right Now

To The 20-Year-Old Girl Dating A 45-Year-Old Man, From The Child Of An Age Gap Relationship

Please know what your getting into.
8864
views

Recently, I've seen a few stories on the Odyssey discussing age gap in relationships.

They all seem to be written by girls who are dating men who are 20 years or more their senior. The articles talk about how love is love, the heart wants what it wants and that no one will change their mind about their relationship. I respect everyone's right to their opinion and their happiness. If you really think it works for you, then go for it. However, you should know what you are getting into completely before fully committing to this.

I am a child of parents with a large age gap. My dad is 23 years older than my mom. They got married when he was 50 and she was 26. My dad was 65 by the time I was born. I love my parents but here's why I think we should be wary of large age gap relationships

Disclaimer: my parents both know and understand my feelings on this. They know I wrote this article and that they are mentioned. I wouldn't trade or change them or their relationship. My parents have provided me with a wonderful life full of love, family, and happiness. Because of them, I've been given financial stability, a safe environment, an education and a huge, loving family. Things have worked out for our family, especially given the circumstances. However, that doesn't mean I would recommend a large age gap relationship. It may seem like nothing now, but the years between you and your significant other will catch up to you.

My dad is now 86 and struggling. He has trouble taking care of himself.

He needs help with almost everything. He can't be left alone for more than an hour or two. He has nurses come three times a week to help with his care. He needs someone present when my mom leaves the house to work part-time. His memory is fading, his health is declining and it seems that he slips out of lucidity more often these days.

My mom is now a full-time caregiver more than a wife.

She does an amazing job making sure my dad is content and taken care of. However, it is draining. She is still young enough to want to go out and do things. She wants to go on vacations and hang out friends. But most of the time, she is at home watching my dad. She is following her wedding vows to a tee but that doesn't mean it is easy. She struggles with guilt sometimes over the entire situation.

Then there is me. Because of my parents' age gap, I have been put in a difficult place.

I've had to watch my dad slip away physically and mentally for a good portion of my life. I try to help out but it is not always an easy thing to do. I will go watch TV with him so my mom can get out for an hour. Unfortunately, I usually end up calling her home because something arises that I can't handle alone. I have gone over to their house many times to help pick my dad up because he fell and refuses to let someone call the EMTs. I have changed college and life plans in order to stay close to home. I have known since I was little that my dad most likely won't be there for my wedding. He won't meet my children. I have struggled with my relationship with him due to the immense age gap. It is all I have ever known but it is something that still greatly affects me. I love my dad with everything I have, but that doesn't make the situation easier.

So my warning to you is this; be prepared for what is down the road.

Know that your age difference of 18 and 40 doesn't seem like anything now but it will at 60 and 82. It will be difficult for everyone involved. As a wife, you will slowly watch the man you loved slip away. Your kids will have to deal with struggles that no one else will understand. It is a lonely and painful situation. Before you make any drastic decisions, please understand what is coming.

If you decide that is what's right for you, then, by all means, go for it! but just understand the consequences of your choices.

Cover Image Credit: PX Here

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

Goodbye: A Poem

I'm letting you go.
233
views

3 months ago, you took me back.

You believed in us even after I left,

We loved without a care in the world.


3 years ago, I first saw you.

In your dark green shirt, crooked glasses, and curls,

Little did I know you’d become my world.


3 weeks ago, I still loved you.

I still believed that you would come back too,

Losing you took over my whole world.


Maybe time outplayed me,

Maybe it was all a test.

Maybe I’m crazy,

Or maybe we were the best.


You destroyed me:

Knocked me to the ground

And on my knees, I literally begged.


It is said:

Time heals all wounds

and I didn’t believe it

…but now I can see it


3 days ago, I missed you.

I thought back to that last time I kissed you,

how you said we’d still be friends.


You lied.


Today I see it all.

I was the one that saved me that fall…


There’s beauty in this life

And so much to learn.

For you, my heart no longer yearns.


I won’t apologize,

I won’t cry,

because it’s a good thing we said goodbye…

It was a blessing in disguise.


So, while you’re laying there

with her by your side,

I will be holding my head up with pride

going somewhere with my life.


For you I cried,

I tried

I died


Yet in the death of my old self,

A new one has come


I am stronger without you

I am happier without you

I am more confident too…

I know that always intimidated you


I am brand new

So, this is my final goodbye to you.

Related Content

Facebook Comments