When a friendship is broken, it can be a difficult time in one's life. But it can also be something to learn a lot from.
1. Once trust is broken, it can never be regained.
My grandmother would always tell me, "Never tell anyone all of your secrets, you never know who you can trust." This is something I have had to learn the hard way. When you have a best friend you never second guess anything you tell them, until it's too late. Even though their secrets will always be under lock and key, mine were scattered throughout the ears of anyone willing to listen.
2. Never compromise what you believe in.
A person who does not have the same values and morals as you is sometimes hard to find a common ground with. As you continue to converse about life, you may find a few similar interests that help you bond. However, as time passes, those initial differences will continue to get in the way and put a strain on your friendship. Don't get me wrong, differences should never be condemned, but those differences should never make you compromise who you are and what you believe in.
3. You can't build a friendship off of gossip.
Someone who is constantly complaining and gossiping about all of their other friends is someone that you need to stay away from. If they are that unsatisfied, how do you think they feel about you? These people are toxic to your well-being, and be mindful of what you deserve.They don't value themselves, and they don't appreciate anyone around them. These people are a waste of your time and a waste of a friendship.
4. Never put someone else first if it puts you at risk.
You do have your own life, which I am sure you have your own problems to deal with. I don't care if those problems are minute or gigantic, it always matters. Sometimes we get so caught up in helping others with their problems, that we forget to manage ourselves first. Your mental, physical, and emotional health should always be the first priority. You should always be put first no matter what.
5. Learn the difference between a helping hand and a snake.
When someone is your best friend, you never think twice about asking them for advice about something. Unfortunately, you'll be able to see a trend with how they respond to the predicaments you find yourself in over time. They could be trying to prevent you from getting hurt from someone, or potentially keep you away from their own personal gain. Usually, these situations revolve around their insecurity and their jealousy of you will show as time passes.
6. Once the chapter is closed, there is no going back.
Sometimes there is no longer room for someone in your life anymore. They may be holding you back from your full potential, or their lifestyle is something that you can't handle anymore. There is no reason as to why the door needs to be reopened. If they happen to contact you, either tell them that you aren't interested or don't even waste your time. You should make your peace and realize how well you've been without them in your life.
I will always remember the times that we laughed so hard that we were crying which then led to almost dying from not being able to breathe. Or the future plans we shared that dealt with our weddings, our children, and our old age. The memories we have cherished will be ingrained in my soul for as long as I live. Along with the good came the bad and that is something that I can never look away from. I thank you for those unforgettable moments, but I also thank you for keeping our chapter forever closed.
