To My Ex-Best Friend

To My Ex-Best Friend

We grew up and grew apart.
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To the person who used to know all my secrets,

I still wish you the best. I still hope you can find someone to dance with you to a Disney song at your wedding, and someone who likes the same college football team as you so you can raise your children in a unified household. I still hope you land your dream job and I still think your mother is a saint.

I hope you're happy wherever you are and I hope that you've gotten everything you've ever wanted. And I hope you found someone who was a better fit for you and the direction your life was going than I was.

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Whether it was a boy, a fight, or just plain old growing apart, I am sorry if you still harbor any ill will towards me. I have none for you, and I am sorry for whatever it is that causes you to still hold any towards me. We grew together, and then we grew apart, it happens, it's sad, but it's a part of life.

You helped me continue on in the race, but you were never intended to help me across the finish line. I'm not mad, I don't blame you, I just get a little sad when I'm full of nostalgia and can't reach out to you and say "remember that time when.."

Everyone we meet is either supposed to serve as a lifelong bond or a lesson, and you were the latter. The lesson could have been a good one, or it could have been a heartbreaking one, but either way, thank you. There is nobody else I would want to be a lesson than someone I created as many memories with.
You are a lesson that I'll never forget, just like our memories will be ones that I tell my children one day. You haven't been erased just because you're no longer in my life.

Thank you for the valuable advice you gave me, for the time you spent with me, and for helping me discover who I was as a person. I'm sorry that the people we became weren't compatible but I'm not sorry about the journey that brought us to this conclusion.

My mom still asks about you, because despite the possibility that we might have gotten in a nasty fight, I never told her the dirty details. I didn't want to taint you in her eyes in the event that we find our way back to each other down the road. The door will always be open, you have seen me ugly laugh, and held me when I ugly cry, we have been through things that there is no going back from, and this is an undeniable fact that means you will always be welcome back into my life.

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I secretly hold onto the hope that one day I'll bump into you, all will be forgiven, and we can start being friends again. I've accepted the reality that this isn't going to happen, but I never want you to think you would be insulted or belittled if you did reappear.

I look forward to following your progress through this crazy beautiful life via social media, and tidbits from mutual friends. I hope one day your kids hear stories about me, and can tell you and I had a bond that endured many adventures. I hope you tell them kind things about me and use us as a lesson that while some friends are forever, some aren't and there is nothing wrong with that.

Just know I pray for your happiness, I wish nothing but good things for you, and I hope you found some other amazing best friends like I did.

Sincerely,

That girl who used to be in all your pictures

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Why Nursing School Friends Are So Vital

Pun intended.

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When I started nursing school, I knew it would be difficult. I wasn't naive. I heard the stories. I knew what I was getting into…to a certain degree.

It was everything I thought it would be and more. The highs were higher and the lows were lower. The thing you realize quickly in nursing is that it's not something you can achieve on your own. You have to have a support system. It's how you survive. It can feel like you're on your own because you have to perform the skills and make the grades, but really, there are so many friends standing behind you pushing you through.

I've seen it over and over again. I've been a part of it, witnessed it and had help myself. The truth is, even the most intelligent students need help in some sort of way. It might be hard to realize it when you're so inwardly focused, but when you look around you, everyone is walking the same path. They just have different strengths and weaknesses. It's an incredible thing when others use their personal strengths to offset your weaknesses. Nursing friends see in you what you don't see in yourself. Nursing friends share your passions, sleepless nights, early mornings, stress, panic attacks, victories, and failures. Nursing friends are your own personal cheerleaders.

It's no secret that we deal with some pretty gross stuff. Who else can you count on when you're walking down the unit trying to find an extra pair of hands to help you change the clothes of a morbidly obese patient who's covered from shoulders to ankles in their stool? Your nursing buds.

What about when your patient goes into v-fib (ventricular fibrillation), and you need someone to relief on chest compressions? Your rock star nurse friends are there to lend a hand or two.

Or what about when you are scrubbing into a C-section for the first time and you're kind of, sort of, secretly concerned you might get queasy or faint? Your nursing squad will remind you how tough you are. They'll assist you as quickly as possible and when you are finished washing your hands a thousand times, they'll make you laugh or smile. They'll always be there to help you with dignity, support, love, and encouragement.

Your nursing friends know which supply closet you go hide in when you are about to lose it or when class is so long it's giving you a headache so they pass you some Tylenol. Nursing friends are the backbone of your nursing school experience. I always love it that whenever I need hand sanitizer, Tylenol/Advil/Motrin or even a Band-Aid, someone always has it.

Even if you don't talk every day, or you take different class times, there is always someone waving hello or asking how you're holding up. You are all so different, but at the same time, you feel like you're surrounded by so many who are just like you. They care as much as you do. They love as much as you do. And the best part? They just love you. Even on your worst days. There will be times when you trip up on the easy stuff you know that you know, but they'll be there with open arms telling you about when they were in the same place. They are the ones who “fight in the trenches" with you. They'll carry you when you can't keep going, and you'll do the same. No woman or man left behind.

Nursing friends are incredible lifelong blessings. So, remember to thank them every once in a while. Keep cheering each other on, keep fighting together and keep reminding each other that the end goal is closer than it seems.

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My Boyfriend Works Out Religiously And I Don’t, But He Loves Me For Me

"Hey babe, I'm headed to the gym. I'll text you when I'm done."

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I have recently changed my relationship status from, "eating ice cream alone and watching 'The Bachelor'" to "eating ice cream and watching 'The Bachelor'... with my boyfriend." I must say I am #blessed and beyond lucky to have such a loving and supportive bae.

Like every new relationship, you have to get to know each other. Their likes and dislikes. Their quirks and pet-peeves. But one of the more exciting things you get to learn, especially if you go to school with them, is how they eat and take care of themselves.

My version of "self-love" looks like sleeping in until 12:00 p.m. and having a hot cup of coffee while I curl up in bed and scroll through the 'gram. In a perfect world, I have a pastry and no responsibilities. But like the Rolling Stones once said, you can't always get what you want.

My boyfriend, on the other hand, is bright-eyed and bushy-tailed at 8 a.m. every morning ready with pre-workout in one hand and a kick-ass attitude in the other. Let me tell you the Lord must have known what He was doing when He brought him into my life.

I have to say that initially, I had a lot of self-doubts when we were first together. I was worried that he wouldn't like me because I am not some fitness model on Instagram that sells protein powder for a little extra cash (I'm not salty lol). I was convinced that every time he went to the gym he would see all these fit girls and wish I was more like them.

It took me a little while to voice these concerns to him because even though I'm a comm major that doesn't mean I am a pro at communicating in a relationship. Immediately once I shared these thoughts, I knew that they were all for nothing. He instantly reassured me that what drew him to me was not my outward appearance (but he did say I'm a sight for sore eyes) but my personality and love for the Lord.

I think this is a topic of conversation that can be so important to have in a relationship. It is great to be able to communicate to one another what you appreciate and admire about each other. One thing I have learned is that you can't read the other person's mind, so you have no clue how they feel about you unless you ask or they show you.

Every woman struggles with loving the body they are given. With social media today, it is so easy to get lost in the "perfect" idea of the female figure. Ladies, there is so much more to you than looks and dress sizes. You have character, talents, passions, dreams and they all make you the woman you are today.

Find a man that will see all of those traits and unique qualities you possess and encourage them. There is nothing like being with someone that loves you for who you are, not what you look like, or how many miles you can run on the treadmill.

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