Most girls hear on their wedding day something about how hard it would be to fill their fathers shoes. I'm looking for someone who couldn't fill those shoes because for me, I don't feel those shoes are ever worth filling. Here are ten reasons why I don't want to be with someone like my father:
1. He never supported me.
The future was never something I could talk about for the simple fact that he shot me down every chance that he could. I was always told that I couldn't do it or I wasn't capable of it.
2. He wasn't my mothers best friend.
For most of my mother's time with my father, it always felt like they were on two different pages. They weren't a team like most married couples should be.
3. He is emotionally abusive.
He never took responsibility for his actions. He constantly made excuses for his behavior, and played the victim pinning his problems on somebody else. He called my mother names and was extremely controlling and manipulative.
4. He is a pathological liar.
He would always lie about where he was going or who he was with and what he was doing. If you were to call him out, he would never admit the truth about his actions.
5. He is selfish.
He constantly considers himself number one, always thinking that everything revolves around him, that his problems come before his family.
6. He takes what he has for granted.
He takes for granted the fact that he has a loving and supportive wife and two daughters. Some people are not lucky enough to find someone who is willing enough to stand by someone that does not have their best interest at heart.
7. He kept us from having a normal family.
He would always alienate himself from family activities. His own bad habits would tear apart our family.
8. He portrayed a false image on how a man should treat women.
A real man is supposed to treat women with respect, but I do not think that respect was something he is or will ever be accustomed to.
9. He abused alcohol.
We never got to develop a relationship because he was constantly in and out of my life due to drinking. At one point, he was drunk and decided to say he did not love me. This is a great example of how alcohol can disconnect a father and daughter.
10. He does not and will never respect me or my feelings.
Just recently an issue arose and he said that he hated me and was done with me. He does not respect my feelings or who I am as a person.
