In today’s society, crying is considered to be a sign of weakness, a sign of not being strong enough in our competitive system and a sign of not being able to get certain things done due to an emotional issue. Nowadays, words such as “being a pu**y” and “crying” walk hand in hand, our mass media reflect this. In all this insanity written down in the papers and recorded on television, people forget what the actual purpose of crying is: Expressing something that can’t be said in words.
Everybody faces situations in which your breath is taken away, you can barely speak, and a certain feeling develops around your stomach. Those situations can be that overwhelming because of the positive energy they provide or because they are so burdensome that words can’t explain the tragedy felt by a human being in this particular moment.
In both cases, however, tears are able to explain either enormous happiness or bitter sadness. Both cases can be associated with tears: Normally, there is no wedding without tears that, in that particular case, express the feeling of finding the person you can love forever.
Especially in the second case, however, tears are doing way more than just expressing emotions. Tears ask for help in case humans aren’t able to ask for it or talk about what is bothering them. In today’s world, people rather express their feelings on social media instead of explaining their situation to close friends. Crying can be helpful in this case and, speaking out of personal experience, I know how hard it is to talk about battling depression. But real friends would recognize if something bothers you, which means that you don’t need to be afraid of crying. If they are friends, they will understand. And crying can help them to understand even better.
Unfortunately, though, crying and tears have almost completely disappeared from the flickering networks and the public eye. That dangerous trend has to be stopped. Crying is a regular human feeling just like laughing, smiling, being angry, and frustration.
I began this article by saying that in today’s society crying is considered to be a sign of weakness. If we can’t build a new society in which crying and tears are an accepted part of human nature that nobody has to apologize for, we will soon see that the whole struggle is lost. As Elizabeth Gilbert said in the wonderful movie “Eat, Pray, Love”: “Don’t apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.” I don’t want to live in a world of robots.
