We all do it. We all talk shit about people. I understand that. But why? What do we actually gain from talking shit about other people?
Insecurity.
Once upon a few semesters ago, I wasn’t the best version of myself. My mind had been infiltrated with constant negativity that I could never seem to shake. I found myself judging others and just saying nasty things about people that should never be said out loud.
It’s one thing to think something, but it’s another to say it out loud.
The other day, I was in my Economics class trying to learn about monopolist competition when my ears tuned into a conversation these two girls were having behind me. They were going back and forth about how “ugly” a girl they knew looked in a picture on social media. They continued to point out every flaw and would laugh about how “ugly” she was in the picture.
I can’t believe I live in a world where women make fun of other women.
Listening to their conversation behind me, I couldn't help but feel bad for them. They must think so low of themselves to have to bash another person to try and make themselves feel better.
As women, we are already oppressed in so many ways. Why are we, as women, bashing other women?
When a woman has something unstable in her life, whether it be a man, a friendship, weight, or time, she becomes insecure. She is no longer in control. Because she lacks that sense of control, she feels the need to put others down in order to gain that control back. But in the end, she really just brings herself down through the act of comparison.
Comparing ourselves to others is something that we, as women, need to stop doing – it only becomes negativity and makes us more insecure.
Saying things like, “Oh my god. Look at this girl. She has a nice body, but her face is not cute at all. Ew.” is NOT going to get you far in life whatsoever.Now I understand that we all have people in life that we don’t typically like. Hey, I have a huge list of people that I am not crazy about, but I don’t spend my time shit-talking those people just so I can feel better about myself.
Think about it. After you spend your time with your girlfriends laughing and making fun of someone, do you go back home and feel good about it?
I remember when I used to spend my time with an old friend just talking shit about people. We would laugh, and make fun of so many people based on their looks, weight, or any flaw we could see on their social media pages.
I wanted to write this article to discuss how listening to that conversation in my Economics class made me reflect on my past. After hearing those girls, I remember how vicious I used to be and how so many other girls that I used to be friends with just sat around talking shit about people, even their friends. It was like they thought they were perfect or something.
But guess what? They weren't. They're not. I wasn't and I know that I am not. You're not. None is perfect. Why? Because we have flaws!!!
Flaws are what make each and every one of us unique, strong, smart, sexy, beautiful women no matter who you are or what you look like.
So to all of the girls out there who spend their time talking shit and spreading negativity, I really do feel bad for you. I just hope one day, you find more security in yourself to be a good person.
As women, we need to boost each other up and remind each other that we are all beautiful no matter what anyone has to say about it.
No one does it better than we do.
