You Deserve To Take The Time To Be Happy

You Deserve To Take The Time To Be Happy

Smiling is important.


When school gets tough or life starts to get in the way, it becomes harder and harder to see the world from outside the hole that you sometimes feel trapped in. You forget about asking people to hang out, and you focus on getting through day to day, sometimes so stuck in the groove, that you forget that the outside world is moving around you. College can feel that way. You become trapped in this bubble where classes become your identity, your lifeline, and the only thing that can keep you going. You spend numerous hours in the library and forget about the fact that people are living life outside the walls and windows of your own little world inside campus. It's crazy to feel that way. To have a norm, but feels so robotic sometimes. It feels like each day is going to class, hitting the library, exercising at the gym, and falling asleep at night.

My advice is to not let yourself become complacent. Do not let the "schedule" of a schedule get to your life.

Take time to enjoy the things you love. Wear an outfit you feel confident in, take a shopping trip, treat yourself to a coffee or hot chocolate, or go eat fast food late at night if you get the craving. Sometimes you have to "let go" before you can "pop" a little bit of the bubble we can all feel trapped in.

Recently, I have been making lists. Of course, I have lists that consist of all the academics and school work I need to complete with due dates, but more importantly, is a list of things I want to do this month, people I want to connect with, and little things I can try to boost my mood and step away from the bubble for an hour or two.

If you're not a visual person like me, you don't have to write all these things down. But it is something to consider as you go through your academic career. Try not to get lost amongst the books at the library and attempt to surround yourself with some people or things that make you smile.

Having a healthy balance of both will improve your academics and performance. It is important to practice being healthy in all ways but intelligence. The brain can only work so hard before even it needs a break.

Laugh a little. Think about what makes you happy and do it. Treat yourself. Create a healthy balance between fun and work. Work hard and play hard. Set goals and find ways to achieve them.

You don't deserve to go through anything without a smile.

"No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change." -Barbara DeAngelis

"Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life, the whole aim, and end of human existence." -Aristotle

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My whole life I’ve been thin—which is kind of an understatement. Every time I go to the doctor I get the same “you’re underweight” lecture that I’ve heard every year since I was able to form memories. I’ve never really felt insecure about my weight, I love being able to eat everything and not gain a single pound. Since my freshman year of high school I’ve probably only gained 8 pounds and I’m now a sophomore in college. Of course, in school, there were rumors that I was anorexic or bulimic, but everyone who knew me knew that was far from the truth. I’m now 19, 5’2, and I still have yet to break 100 pounds on the scale. It seems that there is a lot of skinny shaming going around and to me, one of the main contributors to that is the Dove Real Beauty campaign.

You’re probably wondering where I’m going with this because skinny girls get all the praise and other body types are neglected. That’s really not true, though. While loving other body types, you are tearing down skinny girls. Why is it okay to do that to skinny girls but not to other body types? Why is it okay to say “only dogs like bones” or say “every body type is beautiful” until you see a model's abs, or ribs, or thigh gap and then tear them down because they’re “unnaturally” skinny?

The point I’m trying to make is that, as a naturally skinny girl, I have never shamed anyone for their body type, yet I go every day and get at least two comments about my weight. I’m always the skinny girl, the toothpick, but I’m not Jessica. Yeah, I’m a size 00. Get over it. If you have an issue with my body and feel like my body is disgusting to you, don’t look at it. I know that I’m healthy and I don’t need your input when my body just naturally burns calories fast. I don’t have an eating disorder and never have. I am real beauty though, and I know that because I’m comfortable in my own skin. So maybe the real issue is that we as a society have been shoving certain body types down our daughters’ throats so they begin to romanticize models that have certain standards that they have to meet, who work hard for the bodies that they have, and are making a hell of a lot more money than most of the people discussing why they look emaciated while what they’re actually looking at is the photoshopped product.

I’m not going to apologize for being skinny when that is just how my body is, I can’t help it. So please, stop tearing my body down while trying to bring your body up. You can praise your body without shaming skinny girls. Shaming me for being thin does not make you better than the man that shamed your body, just as me shaming you for being curvy does not make me better than the man that shamed my body. As women, we need to love each other because we are the only ones who truly understand each other.

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Smile, Laugh, Cry...It's ok

Isn't it amazing that our body literally cannot contain the amount of joy we are feeling, so we laugh.


How great is it that you have someone in this world who has the ability to make you happy, excited, or even sad. How lucky are you that someone means so much to you that you are able to feel so deeply as to what their opinion of you means. Some may think it's a bad thing to let someone affect your emotions, but I think it means you're human. Emotions are the best gift that we were given. Isn't it amazing that our body literally cannot contain the amount of joy we are feeling, so we laugh. Or that we could be so hurt that tears run down our face.

Yeah, being sad isn't fun and at the time you want that feeling to go away (which it will) but just imagine what your life would be like if you couldn't feel sad? or you didn't have the ability to feel the amazing feeling of pure happiness. I would rather deal with the pain of hurting for a while than to have the option of never having to feel it again because it makes you a real person. It shows you what your morals are. These emotions help you figure out how you want to live your life. We feel emotions that we may not even realize. And sometimes you may never really know what's going on in that complicated mind of yours, but your body will literally force you to figure it out.

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