I Survived The Sophomore Slump

I Survived The Sophomore Slump

Sometimes you just have to stay chill and trudge through.
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Let me preface by saying: Sophomore year kind of sucks.

OK, rewind. My foundation year of college was one of the best years of my life. Being a few hours away from home in a small school, I felt more independent than ever. I had responsibilities, was making new friends, and was able to start growing into the kind of person I wanted to be. At last I was no longer trapped between the worlds of childhood and maturity. I was moving forward. Things were stressful, but the kind of stress that felt good. To be honest, everything felt good in a way. I felt like I was finally beginning to own myself.

The second semester of sophomore year was when this feeling wore away. I felt trapped again, but this time with my responsibilities. I had no desire to go back to my childhood – I am still beyond fine with letting those years go – but moving forward was getting increasingly difficult. Between switching majors, managing six classes, balancing relationships, finding housing, working part time (and not making enough money), my normal anxiety, and trying to not destroy my body with unhealthy food and messed up sleeping schedules, my daily thoughts generally boiled down to, “Why can’t things just work out for once?”

The frustrations I had with some aspects of my life seeped into all aspects of my life, and so I spent a lot of time alone. I wish I could say I used this solitude for some self-reflection, but actually for a lot of it I was just really bitter. Like I said, I never had any longing to wish things back to the way they were before, so I was just stuck feeling mad about things I didn’t have total control over. I also cried a lot, but that’s not really saying much because a few days ago I watched a video about fishing and almost cried when the fish was caught (I thought they were going to kill it and I got really sensitive about it, but they let it go, so it’s fine).

Anyway, mentally, I was in a really bad place. Suffice it to say that I spent a lot of time sitting alone with my thoughts.

When I did get out and talk to people, I found that most of them weren’t exactly having the times of their lives, either. I consulted my older friends about this phenomenon.

“Oh, yeah,” they said. “That’s just the Sophomore Slump.”

“What?” I would reply.

“I went through that too. Sophomore year is just kind of awful.”

Thankful that I wasn’t alone, I would tell them, “Well, you couldn’t have warned me about this or anything?”

Why is the Sophomore Slump a thing? I honestly don’t know. For me, personally, a lot of it was due to a gradual compilation of events that eventually led me to my tipping point. That said, it’s not as if sophomore year is an absolute hell. I still had fun and learned a lot, and as to my earlier question of “Why can’t things just work out for once?” – well, they usually did, it just took a little more work and some luck. (And emails, so many emails! I swear to God, I was sending 50 emails a week.)

Of course, with finals over in a week, it’s really easy to look back and say “that wasn’t so bad”. The fact is that while I was living through it, it was… just awful, just the worst.

So how do you deal with it? Again, my answer is: ???

For a few months, I haven’t been happy, and to be honest, I’m still not back in the place I was before. I don’t think there is a solution. But then, should there be? Is it really necessary to be happy all the time? For me, what kept me from going completely over the edge wasn’t trying to be happier than I was, but rather learning how to not be absolutely negative – you know, being able to chill out, take care of yourself, and trudge through.

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A Senior's Last Week Of High School

The bittersweet end.
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Well, this is it. This is what we've worked so hard the last four years - who am I kidding - basically what seems like our whole lives for. This is the very last week we will set foot as a student in our high school's hallways. As most schools are getting ready to set their seniors free at last, it all begins to set in - the excitement, the anxiousness, and also the sentiment and nostalgia.

For seniors, the years since our first day as a freshman at the bottom of the high school totem pole have seemed endless, but as we look back on these last few weeks, we realize that this year in particular has gone by extraordinarily fast. It was just yesterday that we were sitting in our classrooms for the very first time, going to our 'last first' practice, and getting our first taste of the (very real) "senioritis". With all that's going on in our lives right now, from sports and clubs, finals, and the sought after graduation ceremony, it's hard to really sit down and think about how our lives are all about to become drastically different. For some it's moving out, and for some it's just the thought of not seeing your best friend on the way to fourth period English; either way, the feels are real. We are all in a tug of war with the emotions going on inside of us; everything is changing - we're ready, but we're not.

THE GOOD. Our lives are about to begin! There is a constant whirlwind of excitement. Senior awards, getting out of school early, parties, and of course Graduation. We are about to be thrust into a world of all new things and new people. Calling our own shots and having the freedom we have so desperately desired since the teenage years began is right around the corner. Maybe the best part is being able to use these new things surrounding you to grow and open your mind and even your heart to ideas you never could before. We get the chance to sink or swim, become our own person, and really begin to find ourselves.

Things we don't even know yet are in the works with new people we haven't even met yet. These friendships we find will be the ones to last us a lifetime. The adventures we experience will transform into the advice we tell our own children and will become the old tales we pass down to our grandkids when they come to visit on the weekends. We will probably hate the all night study sessions, the intensity of finals week, and the overpowering stress and panic of school in general, just like we did in high school... But it will all be worth it for the memories we make that will outlive the stress of that paper due in that class you absolutely hate. As we leave high school, remember what all the parents, teachers, coaches, and mentors are telling you - this are the best times of our lives!

THE BAD. The sentimental emotions are setting in. We're crying, siblings are tearing up, and parents are full-out bawling. On that first day, we never expected the school year to speed by the way it did. Suddenly everything is coming to an end. Our favorite teachers aren't going to be down the hall anymore, our best friends probably won't share a class with us, we won't be coming home to eat dinner with our families...

We all said we wanted to get out of this place, we couldn't wait, we were ready to be on our own; we all said we wouldn't be "so emotional" when the time came, but yet here we are, wishing we could play one more football game with our team or taking the time to make sure we remember the class we liked the most or the person that has made us laugh even when we were so stressed we could cry these past few years. Take the time to hug your parents these last few months. Memorize the facial expressions of your little sister or brother. Remember the sound of your dad coming home from work. These little things we take for granted every day will soon just be the things we tell our college roommate when they ask about where we're from. As much as we've wanted to get out of our house and our school, we never thought it would break our heart as much as it did. We are all beginning to realize that everything we have is about to be gone.

Growing up is scary, but it can also be fun. As we take the last few steps in the hallways of our school, take it all in. Remember, it's okay to be happy; it's okay to be totally excited. But also remember it's okay to be sad. It's okay to be sentimental. It's okay to be scared, too. It's okay to feel all these confusing emotions that we are feeling. The best thing about the bittersweet end to our high school years is that we are finally slowing down our busy lives enough to remember the happy memories.

Try not to get annoyed when your mom starts showing your baby pictures to everyone she sees, or when your dad starts getting aggravated when you talk about moving out and into your new dorm. They're coping with the same emotions we are. Walk through the halls remembering the classes you loved and the classes you hated. Think of the all great times that have happened in our high school years and the friends that have been made that will never be forgotten. We all say we hated school, but we really didn't. Everything is about to change; that's a happy thing, and a sad thing. We all just have to embrace it! We're ready, but we're not...

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Why Ignorance In Our Country Is Not Bliss

And it never will be.

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The saying ignorance is bliss is a bunch of crap. Ignorance is ignorance.

With everything going on in our country, I think it is very important for us to be educating ourselves.

You don't trust the news? Do your own digging.

You don't understand? Do some research.

You don't have the same perspective? Share it.

You only have your religious beliefs to base your knowledge? Learn before you judge.

We live in a scary world today. People judge others they've never met or before they've ever heard their story. People involve themselves in matters that they shouldn't be involved in. People are trying to regulate other people's bodies.

People don't want to learn about the issues they so strongly believe in. People don't want to hear the other side. When did party affiliation become more important than being a human being? When did men get the power to decide what women can do with their bodies? When did we stop being compassionate? When did we stop being decent human beings?

I don't want to live in a world where I have all these questions.

I don't want to live in a world where a judicial system will convict a woman who got an abortion after she was raped, but won't convict her rapist.

I don't want to live in a world where my social media timeline makes me want to cry.

I want to live in a world where everyone's opinion matters, not just the one you agree with.

I want to live in a world where everyone's voice is heard equally, not just the one's in power.

I want to live in a world where everyone's story is taken into consideration, not just the one's the government wants you to hear.

I want to live in a world where I can raise a young girl and not be afraid for her.

I want to live in a world where we do good.

I want to live in a world where we have differences, but that doesn't make us any less equal.

I want to live in a world where we don't judge before we know.

I want to live in a world where religious beliefs are respected.

I want to live in a world where it doesn't matter what political party you are.

I want to live in a world where people see right from wrong.

I want to live in a world where I am not afraid.

What kind of world do you want to live in?

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