We’ve all been there. We’ve all put our two cents where they weren’t needed and most likely felt the repercussions at one point or another. When someone acts jealous, withdrawn, weird, or unkind, it is not our obligation to make that someone’s problem our problem. It may be tempting but it is in no way our responsibility.
I’ve done it many times. Until I realized I had no reason to involve myself in others' business. It was starting to take away from other parts of my life like, college. When I entered college, I promised myself my studies would come first and that I would leave all of the high school drama behind. But I was l was beginning to get swept up in the familiar wave of drama that I loved to put myself right smack dab in the middle of. I soon discovered that the people I hung around with with reflected my attitude and being towards others and myself.
As college students, we all share one common goal: graduating with a degree. So instead of focusing on the petty gossip or the jealous withdrawn guy who sits in the back of class, try to motivate yourself to focus on getting that degree. Put the time and the energy into your school work or towards applying for the summer internship. The problem most times doesn’t even concern you which is all the more reason why you shouldn’t involve yourself in other’s problems.
We make a choice to involve ourselves in other people's lives. Whether we do that in a positive or negative way is also our decision. No one plans our life for us so why choose to to get involved in negativity that will drag us down? That person is the one who decides who they are surrounding themselves with, not you. If we keep in mind that we don’t need to involve ourselves in other people's business, our lives would be a lot simpler.
When we involve ourselves in other people’s problems, we not only hurt ourselves, but we also hurt the person and even others who aren’t even involved. People talk all the time; it’s human nature. But, when we involve ourselves, everyone’s feelings need to be considered. You’re not only hurting yourself but your reputation, too. People might start to question your trust or, worst of all, your friendship. Most importantly, you may hurt the people who are directly involved in the situation. Hurtful words may be exchanged and old arguments revisited which inevitably leads to history repeating itself.
By radiating positivity and choosing to not get involved in other people’s problems, we can help improve and set examples for others. Life as a college student is already stressful enough. College is supposed to be the best four years of our lives, so why not make it the best four years of our lives? Don’t waste your time by turning someone else’s problem into your own.
