Now more than ever, I feel like relationships and breakups make people question their value or self-worth. With that being said, I'm coming at you here from a 19-year-old girl's perspective, but many of my friends that I've talked to have experienced similar things.

I have had my fair share of relationships that have made me question my self worth, and even believe that I had none at all. I have been in and witnessed relationships where one or both sides are selfish and do not think of the fact that their words and actions may hurt the other. The very unfortunate thing is, this lack of self-value can translate into many other things.

There are the more obvious things, such as depression, general anxiety, and lack of motivation to do anything, but then there are more subtle factors that come into play. You start to question everything. Your judgment on people in general, if your friends truly are your friends, and even if you deserve the people around you. After I started to see myself as almost nothing, I started to think that other people thought the exact same thing. I became a recluse, did not want to be around anyone that wasn't already immediately with me, and thought that I deserved no one.

But then I realized that I was better than the toxic relationships that I had formed. They didn't work out for a reason, and that was how my life was intended to go at that given time. I started to work on myself, my friendships, and focused on things that I wanted to do, for me

I cannot stress enough how much one needs to stay in tune with themselves throughout relationships, whether it be platonic or romantic. It is so easy, especially when your in a messy, complicated relationship to lose your sense of self and value. Focus on being strong enough to question them when they make you question your value. Rid yourself of the people that make you think such things. Trust your gut when it comes to judgment, love your friends as much as you can, and just remember, you are fucking awesome.