Choices.
Not mistakes.
I say that because as redundant as it may sound, it's true. Choices that we've made in our past aren't always the best, but that doesn't make them mistakes. At that time it was an active choice because we didn't know better (try to think of that as a good thing, eventually). Through these experience we learn to do better, to become better and ultimately, to make better choices.
Or maybe you do "know better," but you make the choice you choose to make regardless of it; that doesn't mean you're not smart enough. It could simply be that you need to make that choice because you need the experience and situation to present itself. I've had instances when I knew I wasn't getting myself into something smart, but I knew that somehow it would show me something.
It's important to understand that we are constantly growing and changing and these things wouldn't happen if we didn't make certain choices and take certain actions.
Sometimes I randomly go into a deep thought cycle about decisions and choices I've made in my past and I feel embarrassed, even ashamed and I don't understand why I thought it was OK. Honestly, I feel somewhat stupid. But that's so unnecessary and so belittling because without those experiences I wouldn't be where I am now.
Better. Smarter.
If you choose to, every encounter, person and experience could teach you something. It can be something about yourself or something about the situation. You learn to handle future circumstances differently because of what you've already been through. Which is why I don't agree that wisdom comes with age; it comes with experience. You might have a smarter outlook and perceive and judge situations at a higher level of cognition at 20 years than someone at 40 years. So next time your past choices are back to haunt you, stop for a second and thank yourself for allowing yourself to grow as a person.
Life is the way it is for many reasons. It’s not suppose to always be good. You’ll have bad days that have no reason for their occurrences. Such as days when you just think back on things you thought you were over. It’s part of life. It’s the beauty in the unpredictability of it. Hopefully you have a mindset that can make most of your days blissful ones. But also accept the pain, struggles, stress and worries. How would we learn to be happy and love the good if we don’t experience the inverse?
Change is constantly occurring, and I couldn’t be happier. People will never be OK with change, but you learn to accept it. If not, then you distance yourself. But you never hold someone back. Allow yourself to feel stronger, wiser, more confident. Be proud of who you're becoming; you have so many goals, so many plans. Know that one day you’ll lead a blissful life, with everything you've imagined. Because you never settle. You never allow that. Honestly, I firmly believe that if you’re not changing you’re not growing. Different changes in different people can be good and bad for different people. But you’re not one to decide. Allow yourself to be content with who you are. Your life, your choices.
