Abuse happens, and it doesn't have restrictions. It doesn't see color, it doesn't see age, and it doesn't see any specific gender. Men and women are victims of this every single day. It is a difficult topic, and people choose not to discuss it. Why do we shy away from the hard topics of conversation? Why is it swept under the rug as if it's nonexistent? If you aren't suffering from the abuse, YOU know someone who may be suffering.

An abusive relationship is toxic in more ways than it is visible. Are you currently in an abusive relationship? Do you know the signs? Do you think your significant other could soon become violent? Here's a few red flags:

1. An abusive relationship may be controlling

You might get told what to wear, who to hang out with, when to come home, or even career choices.

In a healthy relationship, a person might show concern and make suggestions, but they will not demand you come home at 9 p.m. on a Friday night.

2. You will never feel good about yourself.

"You could lose a few pounds." "You need to bulk up." "Why don't you ever try and look pretty." "You only got a $2 raise?"

A healthy relationship will build you up. "I noticed you haven't been going to the gym like you use to, is everything okay?" "Wow! I am so proud of your raise." "I love seeing how hard you're trying."

3. Your phone doesn't really belong to you

He/she may constantly hassle you over the content in your phone. They'll often raise acquisitions of you cheating, and they will demand to check your phone.

In a healthy relationship, you wouldn't even have a lock screen. Or at least your partner lets you on his or her phone.

4. I promise he/ she doesn't love you

If your partner has put their hands on you, they do not love you. Abusive relationships are proven to get worse and in some cases, end in death. You are NOT an exception to this. It can happen to you. Please realize how worthy you are of love. Please realize there is a man or woman on this planet looking for a human just like you. Please realize you deserve to be treated with respect. You are unique, beautiful, and worthy of an amazing relationship

Please reach out. Someone is always willing to listen. Someone is always willing to help. You are not alone. Most importantly, you do not deserve this. You are brilliant. You are worthy. You are wonderful.

If you or anyone you know is experiencing an abusive relationship, text "CONNECT" to 741741.