There is always a boyfriend or girlfriend "lurking" on their spouse's social media pages, waiting to find something that's out of the ordinary. "_____ liked _____'s profile picture". Aka "your boyfriend/girlfriend liked a girl/ guy's profile picture that you now officially hate." Now that the spouse has officially found something, they decide to take a screenshot and send it to their friends, sometimes family, and of course their boyfriend/ girlfriend. Sound familiar?This is just one example of why social media ruins relationships.

I'm not saying that social media is the root of all problems, but I've heard way too often of a couple fighting because their partner liked another person's picture or that they posted a "selfie" and a boy/ girl liked it. Who knows what was running through their head? Maybe it's just one of their friends and they liked the picture without even thinking about it. Now if it's an ex girlfriend/ boyfriend, that's a whole other issue. Another reason why social media ruins relationships is the expectation from others for you to post pictures or to be "Facebook official" with your partner.

Just because you see a picture of a couple looking really happy and in love does not mean that's what's happening in real life. People post what they want you to see. When I first started the relationship I'm in now, I'll admit I was pretty upset when my boyfriend didn't want to put on Facebook that we're in a relationship. Now that we've been together for almost seven months, I've realized that doing that kind of thing doesn't matter. If everyone in his life that is important to him knows that we're in a relationship, why does it matter if everyone on Facebook knows? Sometimes I wish we would post more pictures together but that doesn't change the love we have for each other. If we both know how we feel about each other, then that's all that matters.

I don't care if couples post cute stuff on Facebook; sometimes the pictures are so cute! All I'm saying is do not let Facebook, Instagram, Snap chat, Twitter, etc. define your relationship. If you find something that upsets you, say something to your partner, talk about it, and then move on. If being in a relationship on Facebook is that important to you, then post it yourself! If you want more pictures with your partner, then take them and post them! A simple like on a picture, status, or tweet should not make or break your relationship. If it's that much of a problem, then maybe that person isn't the one for you.